Saturday, December 2, 2023

November 2023 Cookbook Reviews

 


The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Dinner's Ready by Ree Drummond

I've always been a fan of Ree Drummond and her cooking/show/recipes. I didn't like her last cookbook, Super Easy! 120 short-cut recipes for dinner, because so many of the recipes used pre-made or convenience products. This one is again all about dinner, but without quite as much convenience/ready made products. It wasn't anything amazing and was very typical of the Pioneer Woman cookbooks - LOTS of pictures (both of the food and her ranch, family, pets, etc.). I have always liked that she includes a lot of pictures of the steps of her recipes - it can definitely be helpful to see what something is supposed to look like along the way. I did find a couple recipes I'd like to try. Overall, it was good but not great.



The Cook's Book by Bri McKoy

Bri McKoy set out to create the cookbook she wishes she'd had when she was first married and trying to figure out to feed herself and her husband every night. This book is designed for the beginning cook, but I think even an experienced/confident cook could find some good recipes and information here. Unlike most cookbooks that have somewhat standalone chapters for types of recipes, McKoy encourages you to NOT skip ahead because the sections and recipes are building your skills as you go. The whole first section of the book is all about making your kitchen work for you - recommended appliances and kitchen tools, pantry staples, etc. There is also a chapter on wine pairings and another on building your bar cart. Other than a few woo-woo things like a section on creating a vision statement for your kitchen, I really liked this one. There are several recipes I'd like to try as well as lots of great tips throughout the book. This would be a great gift for newlyweds or someone out on their own for the first time.



Simple Pleasures by Emma Fontanella

Simple Pleasures is all about enjoying your food. It doesn't necessarily mean high-calorie or super indulgent food, but just good, simple food. While there is a chapter on breakfast and dinners - the majority of the recipes included are for desserts or baked goods. And the recipes do look straightforward and basic. I like that at the beginning the first section of the cookbook is called Foundations & Techniques and covers all kinds of basic cooking and baking tips including substitutions and ways to avoid common cooking/baking mistakes. There were several recipes I'd like to try and I think this would be a great addition to a home cookbook collection.



Milk Street Simple by Christopher Kimball

I like the Milk Street cookbooks and this one also seems good. All of the recipes are geared toward being "simple" or easy to make. The recipes are organized by categories like sandwiches, vegetables, grains, one pan, etc. No desserts or appetizers, just basic meals organized by category. I like that there are often variations given - easy rice bowls has 3 different recipes with other optional flavor/ingredient combinations. There were several recipes I'd like to try. This would be a good cookbook for someone hoping to switch up their dinner options or a newer cook who wants/needs easier recipes.



Veg-table by Nik Sharma

I love vegetables and even though I'm not vegetarian I always enjoy looking at vegetable focused cookbooks for ideas. The recipes in this cookbook are organized by type of vegetable. But the way the actual recipes are written is AWFUL - there is no list of ingredients it's just all a paragraph so you would have to read the whole thing to even figure out ingredients you need. You should read through a whole recipe before you start anyway, but to not list the ingredients and amounts separately just drove me crazy. I tried to give it the benefit of the doubt but still didn't find any recipes I wanted to try. I would NOT recommend this one.



Big Heart Little Stove by Erin French

Erin French started out running a supper club, then cooking out of a converted airstream trailer, and finally opened her own restaurant, The Lost Kitchen. This is her second cookbook highlighting the kind of recipes she's used the whole time she's been cooking. The recipes are organized like a typical cookbook by type - appetizers, soups, suppers, sweets, etc. I like that she includes a chapter on sauces and staples and another called "signatures" which covers some of her signature serving ideas. While I did NOT like her memoir, I did like French's previous cookbook and there are some recipes I'd like to try from this one too.



Butter, Flour, Sugar, Joy by Danielle Kartes

Danielle Kartes set out to write the baking cookbook she wished she'd had earlier. It covers just about any kind of baked dessert you can think of with no tricky ingredients or super time-consuming steps. Just like the title says Butter, Flour, Sugar, Joy. She gives lots of good tips and tricks for baking. The recipes are organized by type - cookies, puddings, bars and bakes, pies, and cakes. Lots of options and ideas and they all seem very straight forward to make. Overall, I think this would be a great gift for a new baker/cook/newlywed.
















November 2023 Book Reviews

 


Cultish: the language of fanaticism by Amanda Montell - re-read, Evening Edition book club
(original review plus update/notes on re-reading)

"This is a book about the language of fanaticism in its many forms: a language I'm calling Cultish (like English, Spanish, or Swedish)." (p. 13) Amanda Montell explores cults through the language they use and how that language is designed to draw us in and keep us in despite any red flags we're seeing. The first section of the book discusses the language we use to talk about cultish groups, including myths about what the term "cult" even means. The rest of the sections discuss specific types of cults and how language plays out in those more specific types of cults or cultish groups - "suicide cults," controversial religions, MLMs (multi-level marketing companies), "cult fitness," and social media gurus. I thought this was a really unique way to look at cults and how there are so many similarities regardless of what the theology/beliefs are. Despite several reviews I read, Montell doesn't equate Jonestown with MLMs or Peloton users. A lot of the book is looking at how cultish language is at play throughout our world and what does it mean - is it really a cult? Or is the language being used as a marketing technique? The reviews I read were kind of mixed, but I absolutely loved this book. I'm currently running a Learning Circle at the library where I work about cults and decided to read this book at the same time and it honestly could have been a textbook for this class it fit so perfectly. I was impressed overall and think if you are fascinated by cults then this book is a must read!

There were lots of quotes I liked:

"The reason millions of us binge cult documentaries or go down rabbit holes researching groups from Jonestown to QAnon is not that there's some twisted voyeur inside us all that's inexplicably attracted to darkness...we're still hunting for a satisfying answer to the question of what causes seemingly 'normal' people to join - and, more important, stay in - fanatical fringe groups with extreme ideologies. We're scanning for threats, on some level wondering, Is everyone susceptible to cultish influence? Could it happen to you? Could it happen to me? And if so, how?" (p. 11)

"The twenty-first century has produced a climate of sociopolitical unrest and mistrust of long-established institutions, like church, government, Big Pharma, and big business. It's the perfect societal recipe for making new and unconventional groups - everything from Reddit incles to wo0-woo wellness influencers - who promise to provide answers that the conventional ones couldn't supply seem freshly appealing. Add the development of social media and declining marriage rates, and culture-wide feelings of isolation are at an all-time high. Civic engagement is at a record-breaking low." (p. 21)

"For those who bristle at the idea of comparing workout classes to religion, know that as tricky as it is to define 'cult,' scholars have been arguing even harder for centuries over how to classify 'religion.' You might have a feeling that Christianity is a religion, while fitness is not, but even experts have a tough time distinguishing exactly why. I like Burton's way of looking at it, which is less about what religions are and more about what religions do, which is to provide the following four things: meaning, purpose, a sense of community, and ritual. Less and less often are seekers finding these things at church." (p. 24)

"Only the most destructive cults gain attention, so we come to think of all cults as destructive, and we simultaneously only recognize the destructive ones as cults, so those gain more attention, reinforcing their negative reputation, and so on ad infinitum." (p. 36)

"Eileen Barker's studies of the Moonies confirmed that their most obedient members were intelligent, chin-up folks. They were the children of activists, educators, and public servants (as opposed to wary scientists, like my parents). They were raised to see the good in people, even to their own detriment. In this way, it's not desperation or mental illness that consistently suckers people into exploitative groups - instead, it's an overabundance of optimism." (p. 98)

"When you're experimenting with faith and belief, there has to be room to ask questions, express your misgivings, and seek outside information, both early on and deep into your membership. 'The most important thing to remember is that if something is legitimate, it will stand up to scrutiny,' [Dr.] Steven Hassan told me." (p. 149)

"It's not totally clear why some people have a System 1 Spidey sense for pyramid schemes, quack health cures, and other too-good-to-be-true messaging while others don't. Some researchers say it might be related to differences in trust that stem from early childhood - the theory being that when you develop trust as a little kid, it sets a lifelong expectation that the world will be honest and nice to you. All sorts of childhood exposures could cause a person to become more or less trusting." (p. 194)

"Research consistently shows that something like one in five CEOs has psychopathic tendencies." (p. 197)

"According to [Michael] Shermer [founder of the Skeptics Society], studies show that American test subjects with the lowest education levels have a higher probability of subscribing to certain paranormal beliefs, like haunted houses, Satanic possession, and UFO landings; but it's test subjects with the most education who are likeliest to believe in New Age ideas, like the power of the mind to heal disease." (p. 270)

"No 'cult leader' takes advantage of our psychological drives quite like The Algorithm [of social media], which thrives on sending us down rabbit holes, so we never even come across rhetoric we don't agree with unless we actively search for it." (p. 280)

Notes on re-reading for book club 11/1-6, 2023:

I wanted to re-read this one since it had been awhile since I read it and one of my book clubs was discussing it. I liked it the second time but not quite as much as the first time. I think the first time I read it was just really perfect timing - I was co-leading a Learning Circle on cults at the same time and it just really worked together. I guess this time there wasn't as much "ah-ha" moments because I had already read it before. I still think it's a very unique way to explore cults and what they mean and how "cultish" language is so prevalent that most people don't even notice it. I'm not sure how this one will go over in book club, but I still liked it and would still recommend it.

Some new quotes to highlight from this reading:

[One of Amway's cultish tactics] "If a friend or family member expresses doubt in the company, you're instructed to 'snip them out of your life.'" (p. 170)

[After the Heaven's Gate suicides] "While one New York Times reporter called Heaven's Gate 'an object lesson in the evils of the Internet,' a journalist from Time incredulously rebutted, 'Spiritual predators? Give me a break...A Web page that has the power to suck people...into a suicide cult?...The whole idea would be laughable if 39 people weren't dead.' As far as the average 1990s imagination could stretch, cults required an in-the-flesh location to have real influence...Twenty years post Heaven's Gate, most zealous fringe groups rarely convene IRL." (p. 261-62)


OMFG, Bees! by Matt Kracht

This is a short, humorous little book all about bees and how awesome they are. The book is divided into a couple of sections - why people might not like bees (or other stinging insects), the seven bee families, honeybee jobs, how honey is made, some specific kinds of cool bees, and at the end is a little more serious info about how important bees are and how to create/maintain more habitat for them. There was also a super weird section with a couple famous works of art with bees added to them - why? I didn't get that at all. The rest of the illustrations in the book are hand drawn sketches of the types of bees and other stinging insects that are NOT bees. Overall, it was a cute, funny book that highlights just how cool and important bees are. But, if you're offended by cursing/bad language this might not be the book for you. That may be obvious by the title, but just noting it as well.




The Birchbark House by Louise Erdrich - re-read, Books & Banter book club
(original review plus notes/update on re-reading)

Omakayas and her family are Ojibwa and live on land her people call the Island of the Golden-Breasted Woodpecker. She is the second of four children living with her parents and grandmother. In The Birchbark House Omakayas takes us through her daily life for four seasons. Starting in Fall and ending with the promise of Spring. Throughout the year we see not only the daily life, but Omakayas's struggles with her siblings. She looks up to her older sister Angelina, but also feels like she'll never be a good as her either. Her younger brother Pinch gets on her nerves, but she loves and dotes on her baby brother Neewo. Throughout the year in this book we see Omakayas grow up in several ways, but especially when her village and family contract smallpox and in a devastating loss that happens from that illness. Overall, an interesting look at what a Native child's life would have been like.

I know that Louise Erdrich wrote this series as a counter-point to the Little House on the Prairie series by Laura Ingalls Wilder to show what daily life would have been like for a Native child. I found several similarities between Omakayas and Laura - both were the second child, both looked up too, but also were envious of their older sister, and both felt the burden of helping their family during hard times. I also felt like the illustrations in this book had the same feel as the illustrations in the Little House books. I think it's great that she wrote these books so that children could read about daily life from a Native child's perspective. My book club actually decided to read this book after we read Little House in the Big Woods last year and talked about how this series was written in response. I liked this book and would recommend it.

Notes on re-reading for my other book club 11/7-8/2023:

My other book club wanted to read this one as our classic pick after reading several of Louise Erdrich's adult books. I don't personally love Erdrich's adult novels, but I did enjoy this one. She is a very talented author and I think even though this is meant for children, adults could enjoy it as well. I think because I had read it before, this time more of her poetic language stood out to me. It's a quick, easy read that gives a look at what a Native child's life might have been like.



The Curious World of Seahorses by Till Hein

This is a unique book that is all about seahorses. Hein really covers just about anything you can think of it when it comes to seahorses - varieties, historical references, current scientific research, and even keeping seahorses in a home aquarium. Seahorses are very unique creatures and Hein does a good job of telling the reader all about them. I did find a few of the chapters a little overly scientific, but overall it is very readable. If you're interested in ocean life you will probably enjoy this one.

Some quotes I liked:

"Pairs usually remain together for life. Old tales relate that if one of the partners is caught in a net, the other won't leave it behind - instead voluntarily following it into captivity. Aquarium keepers recount that after the death of a seahorse, it isn't rare for the remaining partner to also perish within the next few days." (p. 90)

"[Philip Henry] Gosse was the person who coined the term 'aquarium' in 1854, in his book of the same name, where he provided helpful tips for friends of the sea to set up their own 'miniature ocean.'" (p. 129)

I also loved that the author referred to seahorse babies as "sea foals."



Alfie & Me: what owls know, what humans believe by Carl Safina

I was excited to read this one, but it was pretty disappointing. When Carl Safina and his wife Patricia find an owlet near death they rescue it and assume they will keep it safe until it can go back into the wild. But Alfie's feathers aren't growing correctly so she ends up being in their care for over a year before starting to "re-wild." Because the timing of Alfie's "re-wilding" coincides with COVID, Carl and Patricia have an unexpected full-time viewing of Alfie's maturing, finding a mate, and raising her first babies. Throughout their time with Alfie, Carl wonders how much of their "help" is really helping or interfering. They get to watch Alfie's babies, who they call "the Hoo" all fledge and start their own independent owl lives. While most of the parts about the owls were interesting - there was still a LOT of repetition. Alfie mated this many times today, she flew here and there and here and there, how much she hunted/ate/etc. That got old because it was a lot of the same day to day. Also, I would say the book was 50% Alfie and 50% Carl's philosophical musings. I came for Alfie, not for all the other stuff. A little that related to Alfie and their relationship/time would have been fine but I agree with some other reviews I read that is was almost like 2 separate books were meshed together and didn't really work. I did like that some photos were included as that definitely added to the book. I hate it, but I would not recommend this one.



50 Years of Ms. by Katherine Spiller, ed.

In December 1971 the first issue of Ms. magazine appeared as a supplement in New York magazine. Not sure how this first feminist magazine would go over, the initial print run of 300,000 copies was intended to last on the newsstands for several months, yet sold out in just 8 days. After the first issue 26,000 readers mailed in subscription cards and the editors received 20,000 letters from readers. I would say it hit a nerve. And 50 years later Ms. magazine is still going despite the odds. This collection of articles highlights the many issues that this ground-breaking magazine have covered over the decades. Each decade has a brief introduction as to what was going on with the magazine at that time then several articles from issues during that decade. While this was a fascinating read, it was disheartening to see how many of the issues from earlier decades are still an issue today (if not worse) - motherhood and poverty, pornography, equally dividing chores and/or childcare with your partner/spouse, abortion/birth control access, rape, inequities in how the law is applied to women and especially women of color, etc. There is obviously much that HAS improved since the beginning of Ms. but still more work to be done. Feminism is just as needed now as ever.

A quote I liked:

[From an article in Spring 2004 issue titled "A Cruel Edge: The Painful Truth About Today's Pronography - and What Men Can Do About It" by Robert Jensen, PHD] "It hurts to know that no matter who you are, you can be reduced to a thing to be penetrated, and that men will buy movies about that, and that in many of those movies your humiliation will be the central theme. It hurts to know that so much of the pornography men buy fuses sexual desire with cruelty...People routinely assume that pornography is such a difficult and divisive issue because it's about sex. I think that's wrong. This culture struggles unsuccessfully with pornography because it is also about men's cruelty to women, and about the pleasure that men sometimes take in that cruelty. And that is much more difficult for everyone to face." (p. 282) [And this was LONG before everyone had streaming internet and smartphones. Now this starts with children. We'll be seeing just how much this affects them in the next few decades.]



Chenneville by Paulette Jiles

John Chenneville wakes up in a Union hospital with almost no memory. He was injured and has spent the past year in a coma. His recovery is miraculous, yet it takes time for him to fully recover his memory. Once he goes home though he finds out some terrible news - his sister and her whole family, including a son named after him that he had not yet met, have been murdered. And while it seems common knowledge who the murderer is nothing is being done. In this post-Civil War time law and order are not commonplace and justice is even more rare. But for John this is the fuel he needs to fully recover. Every day for a year he works to rebuild his home, body, and mind. Once he feels that he is well enough he starts tracking down his sister's killer. This takes him from his home in Missouri deep into Texas. Along the way John continues to remember his past and try to think of what his future might be like after he succeeds in this mission. He also meets up with a variety of characters - some good and others not so good. The story unfolds slowly, but I still didn't want to put it down. I'd love to see Chenneville's story continue in a future book.

Jiles really is a fantastic author. I'm always impressed with how well she writes male characters. Her descriptions of both the physical and emotional landscape of the post-Civil War era is phenomenal. I was also pleasantly surprised to see that she tied in John Chenneville's story to some of her other previous characters. So this one is now part of the loose "series" that includes The Color of LightningNews of the World, and Simon the Fiddler. I just love how she creates these stand-alone stories that still tie together and have some crossover of characters. I was already planning to read this one, but when I read the end I was even happier to see how it tied in with some of my other favorites by her.

Some quotes I liked:

"His body was very white and thin, his hands soft, unused, and apparently his own clothes were too big for him. He found this deeply disturbing. In three years of fighting it had been burned forever into his mind that if you were not strong and unceasingly alert you would not live. He could not shake this. Nor would he ever." (p. 7)

"How long do you keep it up, how far do you go to find a man like this? If it were for a debt, maybe six months; if it were for an injury, perhaps a year or so; if it were for the murder of a friend, give it several years; but for the murder of someone in your family you search until Hell freezes over and the stars wink out, until either he or you are dead. One or the other." (p. 102)

"He listened to the talk of others also waiting. They spoke of little things, things that mattered. The death of a baby from fever, that Jameson's mare had come home herself after being stolen, that a man had come who read aloud from newspapers gathered from the entire world over, including stories of polar explorers and sinking ships in the Atlantic Ocean, that there was coffee and sugar for sale in San Felipe." (p. 300) [Another minor notation of Captain Kidd from News of the World.]



Old-Fashioned on Purpose: cultivating a slower, more joyful life by Jill Winger

I've been following Jill Winger for awhile now and have been fortunate enough to get to see her speak in person a few times as well at Homesteaders of America events. I already owned her cookbook (and had bought it before I was following her online) and love it, so I was excited to hear she had another book coming out. I'm a librarian, so I rarely buy books. But I immediately pre-ordered this one and I very much enjoyed it. Some reviews I read complained that it wasn't enough "how-to" content, but I don't know why they were necessarily expecting that. This is more of an ode to what Winger calls Old-Fashioned on Purpose. Not necessarily giving up all modern conveniences but purposely choosing to live a more "old-fashioned" life in some ways. The book is divided into two sections, in the first section "the case for old-fashioned on purpose" she explains what that means to her and how she and her family started homesteading or living a more "old-fashioned on purpose" lifestyle. The second section "becoming old-fashioned" covers 8 areas of "old-fashioned" ways and how to incorporate those into your life. This section covers cooking, gardening/animals, parenting, and much more. I felt like she did a great job of showing how to make incremental changes. She is definitely NOT telling everyone to go out and buy acreage and cows. In each of the "becoming old-fashioned" sections she gives easy tips for starting to make changes in each area. I think this is a well-rounded book that would be inspirational to anyone from a newbie who wants to cook more from scratch all the way to a more experienced homesteader who wants more inspiration or ideas.

Some quotes I liked:

"In our fervor for convenience and ease, we've accidentally built an artificial existence where we are distanced from nature, our communities, and even ourselves...And while many of these unnatural conditions now feel normal to us, our bodies are rebelling. Modern 'lifestyle diseases' (the term given to noncommunicable ailments like heart disease, obesity, and type 2 diabetes) are skyrocketing, as are rates of depression and mental illness. The 2019 World Happiness Report showed that Americans were deeply unhappy, even before the chaos of the pandemic ensued. Despite lower rates of violent crime and unemployment, we're more miserable than ever." (p. 44-45)

"Over the years, I've found the most joy with the following equation:
Understanding of the past + Using some present advancements = A more balanced future.
This has become my secret formula for creating the most satisfaction around food, health, community, parenting, and so much more." (p. 46)

"It shows that when true challenges become rare, our brains tend to categorize more things as problems. This perfectly explains much of our modern unhappiness. As our lives get easier, we consider smaller, more trivial things to be troublesome. Therefore, it's up to us to build meaningful challenge into our lives, since day-to-day survival no longer requires it." (p. 58)












Wednesday, November 1, 2023

October 2023 Cookbook Reviews

 


The Ranch Table by Elizabeth Poett

I have watched Elizabeth Poett's cooking show on TV before and enjoyed it so when I saw this cookbook I definitely wanted to check it out. Poett is a seventh-generation farmer on her family's 14,000 acre ranch. In addition to living and working on the ranch, Poett started The Ranch Table - a business that hosted classes, dinners, and events on their ranch. Now she also has the TV show Ranch to Table on the Magnolia network. All of the recipes are organized by season and each chapter in a section gives a highlight of ranch activity then some recipes related to that event or season. There were several recipes I wanted to try. There were also lots of beautiful photographs of both the food and the ranch. If you're looking for a great seasonal cookbook check this one out.



Piecemeal by Kathryn Pauline

The premise of Piecemeal is that "instead of cooking a giant meal and reheating throughout the week, do a little work ahead of time, and then assemble or finish cooking 'a la minute' for fresher meals that reflect, on a daily basis, what you feel like eating." (p. 16) While that is definitely one way of meal prepping, that is not personally how I like to cook. I meal prep so that I DON'T have to cook every day after work. But, just because I don't like the meal prep philosophy doesn't mean this cookbook doesn't have anything to offer. There are 30 ingredients with 120 recipes with various ways to use those ingredients for quick meals. Each recipe is noted whether it takes 5, 15, or 30 minutes to make and also gives tips on how to make ahead, other components to switch out, how best to store, and ways to use that recipe or component. Overall, I liked the recipes and there were several I wanted to try. I can definitely see the benefits of this type of meal prepping but for now that just isn't what works for my life.





October 2023 Book Reviews

 


The Light Pirate by Lily Brooks-Dalton (Evening Edition book club)

Wanda is born during a terrible hurricane that wreaks destruction on Florida and her own family. Her mother's dying wish was to name her after the storm. Wanda's father works as a lineman and realized years ago that the US infrastructure isn't made to deal with the increasingly strong hurricanes and intense weather. And even though he knows this he doesn't change course, he just keeps working to patch up the electrical grid in their area the best he can. Eventually, things get so bad that Florida is evacuated and given back to the wild. But, not everyone wants to leave. Wanda's neighbor, Phyllis, has been prepping for years and started teaching Wanda everything she knows - gardening, canning, firearms, solar panels, etc. When Wanda's father dies she decides to stay with Phyllis. Despite their prepping, neither of them know just how bad things will get or how quickly. But, Wanda also has a unique and unexplainable connection to the water and microscopic creatures that light up whenever she touches the water. Wanda seems to be made for this future dystopia, but with everyone close to her dying in various ways can she survive on her own? Is there hope for community in the re-wilding swamps of former Florida?

I absolutely LOVED Brooks-Dalton's previous book, Good Morning, Midnight, so I was very excited to read this one. But, this one was just so depressing. This poor child - her mother dies giving birth to her during a terrible hurricane, one of her stepbrothers dies in this same hurricane, her father is swept away by a rogue wave while they're together (she's now an orphan at 10 years old) - I mean doesn't this sound like a great book so far?! I think the author is a talented writer. The descriptions are great and I think a lot of what she imagines life in this apocalyptic former Florida would be accurate. But, it's just a grim, depressing book overall. While I did like the character of Wanda there were some weird parts of the storyline that did not make sense:

1) the whole scene with her father insisting they go see a movie and then that puts them in the path of the floodwaters that kill him. Nothing about his character in the book would have done that. It was so weird and seemed like just a way to kill him off so Wanda could stay in FL with Phyllis.
2) It seemed implied to me that Phyllis's cognitive decline was instigated by being pushed down and hitting her head on the floor when they are robbed. I'm not a doctor, but that seems unlikely that she would get a traumatic brain injury from that. A concussion, sure. Other injuries, yes. But, her mental decline starting that day seemed very odd. And to give Wanda the burden of dealing with someone with Alzheimer-like symptoms/ailment to deal with on top of everything else just seemed over the top.
3) WTF ever happened to Lucas?! Don't give us chapters from his perspective then just never bring him up again. There could have been one chapter about him in the final section. He went from being an asshole kid to really turning into a great guy as an adult, so to just not know what happened to him bothered me.
4) I guess that Wanda's "power" of lighting up the water was supposed to be an evolutionary adaptation? It's like because she was born during this terrible hurricane she's given some extra ability to cope with the coming apocalypse. That seemed odd and that whole part of the storyline could have been left out.
5) Where are all the pythons? Everything I've read about FL talk about how bad the python problem is because they basically have no natural predators. And how they've almost wiped out native populations of small mammals like raccoons, foxes, etc. If FL went "back to the wild" I think it would be full of monster pythons, but they are not mentioned once in this book.

I also saw several reviews comparing this to Where the Crawdads Sing, which if I hadn't already read this author would have been enough to keep from reading it. The ONLY correlation to the trainwreck of Where the Crawdads Sing is the well-written nature descriptions and the young girl/woman surviving on her own. But, Wanda was taught a LOT of skills by Phyllis and she was 18/19 when she was actually alone. WTCS most ridiculous plot point was Kya surviving on her own at 5/6 years old.

Overall, I didn't love this one. It was interesting enough that I wanted to know what would happen with Wanda to keep reading. But it was just a very sad and grim book. I would not recommend this one.



The Personal Librarian by Marie Benedict and Victoria Christopher Murray (Books & Banter book club)

Belle da Costa Greene is working in the library at Princeton University when she is recommended for the position of Personal Librarian to J.P. Morgan and his library of rare manuscripts, books, and artwork. When she gets the position she is thrilled. But, Belle has a big secret. She is African-American and her family has been "passing" for White. If this secret were exposed the ramifications would be huge, but in her role as Morgan's personal librarian she is much more in the public eye than she could have ever imagined. As she rises higher in New York society, Belle is more and more conflicted about her success and her true identity.

Even though I am a librarian, I wasn't familiar with Greene's story before reading this book. I have also found that I do not ever enjoy books about libraries whether fiction or non-fiction. My book club read a previous book by Marie Benedict, Lady Clementine and while I didn't love that one I absolutely HATED this one. Here are my main problems:

1) I just did NOT like Belle. For someone who has so much at stake with trying to "pass" as white she definitely didn't mind being in the spotlight and putting on a show. To her (and the authors) credit, this book may not reflect what her personality was really like. And she could have put on more of a show as part of "acting" like a white woman in her position. I hated the character and how she was portrayed in the book. She was just not likeable or realistic in my opinion.
2) Her ridiculous affair with Bernard Berenson. Again, for someone with such a big secret that is a dumb thing to do. Also, when she finds out she's pregnant and they are both like "oh, I thought you were taking care of birth control." WHAT birth control?! It's 1910. Other than pulling out and douching there weren't many/any other options. And when his wife begs her to get back together with him - absolutely ridiculous. Then of course he betrays her again in the end. What an idiot.
3) I also hated that she tried or sort of tried/wanted to have an affair with J.P. Morgan. Why? All along she kept viewing him as a fatherly figure, so why try to do that toward the end. It was weird and didn't need to be added to the storyline.
4) This may be a product of the time period, but I hated all the cattiness and back biting/petty arguments with other women. I had the same issue with Lady Clementine too. It just reiterates the stereotype of catty women.

Overall, I did NOT like this one. If it weren't for one of my book clubs selecting this one I wouldn't have read it or I would have quit a few chapters in. I'll be curious what the rest of my book club members will think.



Survival Guide for the Soul by Ken Shigematsu 

I started reading this one as part of a small group study at the church we've been visiting for the past few months. While the premise is good, I didn't really like it. What I did like was the was the focus on spiritual habits that will help strengthen your relationship with God. Shigematsu talks about the following spiritual practices - meditation, sabbath, gratitude, simple abundance/minimalism, servanthood, friendship, and vocation. All of these are great practices for your spiritual life and relationship with God. What I didn't like was the tone and how the book was written. I feel like the tone of the book was somewhat dumbed down. There were a LOT of really obvious or hokey examples throughout the book. I feel like unfortunately this is fairly common with Christian living books - they feel somewhat juvenile or like the reader is pretty ignorant so the examples have to be something a child would understand. I don't want to rip on this book as there are good practices and ideas, but I really didn't like the tone and how dumbed-down it felt. I personally would recommend some of the same spiritual practices but not this book.



Holy Unhappiness by Amanda Held Opelt

Most Christians are familiar with the prosperity gospel - the false theology that says if you're giving and doing all the right things God will bless you financially, physically, etc. While that is mostly known as a false theology, Opelt makes the case that many American Christians still believe in what she calls the "emotional prosperity gospel." This basic premise is that once you're a Christian you'll be happy all the time and won't struggle emotionally or mentally. Opelt argues that this is equally a false theology or worldview. She discusses 9 areas of life that we often apply the "emotional prosperity gospel" to in our lives and how we can reimagine these areas through a more correct godly lens. The nine areas are - work, marriage, parenthood, calling, community, body, sanctuary, suffering, and sanctification. Opelt does a great job of exploring the unfortunately common Christian viewpoint that if you're struggling in your life you aren't right with God and just how damaging that view can be. I also didn't realize until I was almost halfway through the book that Opelt is the sister of Rachel Held Evans. I was already interested in this book, but that made me even more interested in what she had to say. This book was really well done and an important read for any Christian.

Some quotes I liked:

"God plants the garden, and humankind tends and keeps the garden. This was his plan from the beginning and part of the goodness of creation. Gardening is an occupation fit for God himself and is given as an honorable inheritance for his children. Work was never meant to be a curse, punishment, or the drudgery of the lowly. Work is a holy responsibility." (p. 5)

"Work was becoming a means to a material end, not simply a means of survival or the demand of a king or lord. Eighteenth-century economist James Steuart noted that in former times, 'men were...forced to labour because they were slaves to others; men are now forced to labour because they are slaves to their own wants.'" (p. 8)

"To work is to be human in the Garden of Eden. To be frustrated by work is to be human in the aftermath of the fall." (p. 21)

"[Katelyn] Beaty observes that the evangelical church's teaching on sexuality and purity has created many false expectations for young people. Christian teenagers growing up in the '90s like me were inundated with the True Love Waits movement, which urged kids to remain sexually pure until their wedding night. This movement, Beaty posits, 'holds that God will reward premarital chastity with a good Christian spouse, great sex, and perpetual marital fulfillment,' Beaty calls this 'the sexual prosperity gospel.'" (p. 32)

"The notion that a woman's greatest calling was to bear children has been around since long before the days of Martin Luther, but the concept has experienced a strong revival in the Church in the wake of the feminist movement of the 1950s and '60s. The emerging secular culture was telling women that they should shake off the shackles of motherhood and housekeeping and pursue their real potential by climbing the corporate ladder and chasing their professional dreams. In response, faith leaders set out to convince women that there was, in fact, dignity in diaper changing. We were to glory in our role as reproducers. To serve as a mother was to be faithful to God's unique design. It was the highest feminine aspiration, the surest path to true happiness." (p. 46)

"And the good Christian wife is one who stays home with her children. If she was uninterested in the tasks of homemaking, then it was a sign that she lacked humility and servanthood. If she was drawn to work outside the home, then she was a usurper, hungry for power or money or recognition. Staying home with children may very well be a good and wise choice for many women. But the idea that godly womanhood is inextricably linked to domesticity is more of a middle-class, Victorian-era construct than a biblical mandate. Prior to the Industrial Revolution, the home was the center of industry for both men and women." (p. 51-52)

"My fear is that the nature of the Christian subculture has conditioned Jesus followers like me to believe one of the most subtle and insidious lies of the emotional prosperity gospel: the tacit belief that Christianity is above all safe, entertaining, and comfortable. It is the perception of Christian community as politically advantageous, socially beneficial, and personally profitable. The complicated truth is that Christianity has made some people very, very wealthy and very, very powerful. And that wealth and power are often seen as assets rather than liabilities." (p. 104)



All My Knotted-Up Life by Beth Moore

I grew up in the Christian Church so I knew who Beth Moore was, but I wasn't in Southern Baptist churches and never did any of her Bible studies. I really got interested in Moore after the whole John MacArthur rant in 2019 where he said Beth Moore should "go home" instead of being a Christian leader and speaker. I knew a woman who had the complementarians in that much of an uproar was someone I needed to know more about. She was also one of the few Christian leaders to call out the Christian Right's support of Donald Trump after the "grab 'em by the pussy" audio was leaked.

The majority of the book is not about any of that. It's a straight up memoir of her early life (which was rough), her marriage, and how she got into ministry. She did cover the backlash of her Twitter comments about Donald Trump in 2016 and the backlash from the 2019 exposure of the Southern Baptist Convention's sexual abuse cover up and her subsequent decision to leave her lifelong denomination because of that. But the book is just about who she is and how she got to where she is now. Like other reviews I read, I had a lot of unanswered questions. She was sexually abused by her father but continued to have a relationship with him until his death - she never talks about whether he molested any of her other siblings and I assume she never left her daughters alone with him but she doesn't really talk about how that impacted her adult-life with her family of origin. She also shares a lot about her marriage both the struggles (her husband has PTSD and is Bipolar) and the great parts (he very much encouraged her ministry and speaking career in a time when most Christian men would not have).

She is also very funny and an obviously gifted writer. I laughed out loud several times while reading the book and she also brought me close to tears a few times. It's clear that Beth Moore is called to do what she's doing and God is using her in powerful ways - both through her Bible studies and speaking events and also through this memoir as well. This is reading time well spent.

Some quotes I liked:

"Mom didn't leave Dad then, nor would she leave him later when she learned of more grievous transgressions...My mother didn't see leaving as a viable option. She never once brought it up, to my knowledge. In her reality - whether actual or perceived - where was she to go and what, exactly, was she to do to support herself? She had a high school education, checks bouncing like rubber balls, an elderly mother, one kid in college and two more kids to go, and all without a whit of confidence in herself...No, Mom did what many women of her era did. She stayed, despite a dozen valid reasons to go. She considered dying, but never leaving." (p. 82)

"Women speakers in the conservative church world were only slightly scarcer than unicorns." (p. 157)

"These were not uncomplicated dynamics for some of us, but a family can go a long way on denial. The maddening complexity is, denial could, on occasion, offer a little relief. It makes for a poor lifestyle but a pleasant lunch." (p. 168)

"Novices don't know that every Mexican restaurant can be judged by its salsa. If it's poor, don't order. Simply leave a tip for the waiter's trouble and proceed directly to your car and put on your sunglasses so no one will see you crying. Pappasito's can make salsa like wizards stirring up magic potions, and their confidence in their enchantments is displayed in liberality. Each person at the table gets his or her own little bowl. This is as it should be. Stay out of my salsa and I'll stay out of yours. This is key to long-lasting relationships in Texas." (p. 198)

[On often being the only woman speaker at SBC conferences] "At some point in the conference, disapproval would almost inevitably take the form of ridicule. I've lost count of the times a fellow plenary speaker would ignore me in the hospitality room but bring me up in the introduction of his message. It might go something like this: 'We're just glad we get to be on the same platform as Beth Moore. Sure hope we get some of that anointing.' Uproarious laughter would follow. Sometimes the guy would do a little imitation of me speaking, going heavy on the drawl and big with the mannerisms...I was supposed to take these things like a good sport, and I tried to. I recognized good-spirited humor. But if the guy hadn't said a word to me when we were three feet apart for half and hour backstage, I had a hard time thinking these things were meant well. The biggest offense I brought into these environments was my gender, but my personality and lack of academic training were also factors." (p. 221) [This was INFURIATING to read. I cannot imagine a pastor or Christian leader mocking a female Christian leader and thinking that is what God would want him to do. This is obviously straight up jealousy that she had a bigger following and more of an impact as an "uneducated" woman.]

[On the Donald Trump audio tape being leaked] "By the time I got home and crawled into bed that night, I'd not only read the full transcript of Donald Trump's off-the-air comments. I'd also read the rationalizations of multiple evangelical leaders who'd been fawning over him like he was God's gift to American Christianity...Sexual immorality is one thing. I'm not naive about such things. This kind of thing was different. This kind of thing moved into the realm of sexual criminality...A few voiced disgust, and I was grateful for those, but most either remained silent or actually offered excuses. Their support for Trump's candidacy didn't appear to waver. My own brothers in the faith, who'd been easily scandalized by others, had developed a sudden and protracted case of uncharacteristic tolerance." (p. 239-40)

"All this time, I'd accepted the rampant sexism because I thought it was about Scripture. What I was watching in the wake of the Access Hollywood report, however, did not appear to be a whit about Scripture, nor did it evidence fruit of the Holy Spirit, as far as I could discern. In my estimation, this thing playing out in front of the world was about power. This was about control. This was about the boys' club. You lied. I bit those two words on my tongue until it nearly bled. I believed you and you lied. I thought this was all about Scripture. All about pleasing God. This does not look God-pleasing to me. I couldn't get these thoughts out of my head. I became increasingly vocal about it, until the words I'd bitten down were finally blatantly spoken." (p. 244-45)

"Three months after the news broke on the biggest sexual abuse crisis in the history of the Southern Baptist Convention, there was a new crisis. After my ill-advised tweet about speaking in my church on Mother's Day, suddenly, the biggest threat to the denomination was publicly portrayed as women trying to get to the pulpit and supplant their pastors...All that time I'd obsessed over having a male covering, a mind-boggling number of male leaders were providing a covering, all right. They were covering up sexual abuse. But because I'd been so outspoken and had already annoyed them, a horde of Southern Baptist brethren came for me like I'd burned down churches." (p. 246-47)



The Farmer's Wife by Helen Rebanks

I thought this book sounded interesting before I realized that her husband was James Rebanks. I tried to read his book Pastoral Song and just could NOT get into it so I didn't read it. When I got this book in and realized it was by his wife I wasn't sure I would like it. But I started reading this one and liked her tone and style. I liked the beginning of the book better and actually disliked it more as I kept going. Her family history, time in college, and falling in love with James was interesting. But once they were married and having children the book became a laundry list of everything that Helen was doing, how overwhelmed she was, how little James helped with the children, how tight money was, etc. Helen really wanted children and to be a mother, but by the end of the book she wasn't helping convince anyone to be a parent or a farmer. She includes lots of recipes throughout the book and she obviously enjoys cooking and understands the importance of high-quality, regeneratively farmed food. There were a few spots where she talked briefly about how they farmed and why it's important but honestly it was lost in the laundry list of chores that filled the last 2/3 of the book. I also feel like the book would have flowed better if the recipes were included at the end of each chapter/section instead of just stuck in randomly. Often the recipes interrupted the flow of the text in a weird way. The recipes look good and I just think it would be easier to use/read if the recipes were all together either at the end of the book or included at the end of each section. I think Helen is a good writer and I liked her style but I just didn't love the majority of the content. Overall unless you're a HUGE fan of the Rebanks or are also an overwhelmed mother who wants to feel seen this might not be the book for you. I would give this one 2.5 stars but I'm rounding up to 3 because of the recipes.



Someone Else's Shoes by Jojo Moyes

Sam Kemp and Nisha Cantor are two very different women. Sam is a working mother struggling with her home life - her husband has been out of work and is deeply depressed so all the financial and household burdens are on Sam's shoulders. Plus, she has a new boss who seems to have it in for her so work has become a nightmare as well. Nisha is an extremely wealthy American following her globetrotting businessman husband all around the world. They are currently in London where he unceremoniously asks for a divorce and kicks her out with none of her belongings and blocks all her bank accounts and credit cards. These two women's lives intersect when Sam accidentally takes Nisha's bag instead of her own at the gym. Inside this bag are a pair of custom made Louboutin shoes. These shoes become the focal point of the book and both women are deeply impacted by the shoes. When these women meet they also both start to realize just how much their lives have gone off track and just how important female friends are in their lives.

I don't think I've ever given a Jojo Moyes book I read less than 5 stars, but this one was just not as good as many of her other books. Initially I didn't like either main character (for different reasons), but I did want to know how they met up and what happened with the shoes. I agree with some of the other reviews I read that said the beginning and the end were good and the middle wasn't as good. My main complaints were 1) such unlikable characters - I don't mind an unlikeable character but it seemed like she went overboard to make Sam and Nisha SUPER clichéd and over-the-top. 2) there were SO MANY unrealistic (even for fiction) situations - Nisha working as a maid, Jasmine being so kind and taking her in so quickly, Sam's daughter giving away the shoes, the whole ridiculous caper to get the shoes back, etc. I did like the ending and while it was predictable and neatly wrapped up all the storylines, I do think both main characters had a lot of growth and development by the end. I also really liked how Moyes allowed both characters to really get back at the evil men in their lives at the very end - that was well done. But, I'm only giving it 3 stars because if I had never read Jojo Moyes before and picked this one up I don't know that I would have even finished it. I did like it by the end, but in my opinion it's not her best work.






Saturday, October 7, 2023

September 2023 Cookbooks

 


Clean & Delicious by Dani Spies

Dani Spies is a food blogger, holistic weight loss coach, and a Holistic Health Counselor. Honestly when I first saw all that I thought this book would be full of fads and fake meat, but it's not. It really focuses on eating real food and stocking your pantry with good quality staples so that you're not tempted to eat fast food or other not-so-great options. The recipes are organized by type/meal - like breakfast, snacks, salads, sides, etc. There were several recipes I'd like to try and I liked that all the recipes include a "level up" note about how you could change up that recipe in other ways. Overall, I was very impressed with this cookbook.




Southern Lights: easier, lighter, and better-for-you recipes from the South by Lauren McDuffie

I love Southern food and while I don't think Southern has to equal fried/bad/etc. it can often have that connotation. This cookbook purports to take Southern food and make it lighter and healthier. But, I was VERY disappointed. There were no recipes I wanted to try and some of it didn't seem healthy at all. The very first recipe in the breakfast chapter is for vanilla cream stuffed baked beignets - normally beignets are fried so baking is healthier, but beignets for breakfast is far from healthy. There were also some very odd recipes like red velvet pecans - basically baked pecans with sugar and seasoning, but adding an entire bottle (!!) of red food coloring. What is the point of that?! I would not recommend this one at all.





September 2023 Reviews

 


Seed to Table: a seasonal guide to organically growing, cooking, and preserving food at home by Luay Ghafari

This is a fantastic gardening book! It covers everything from planning your garden, growing food, starting from seed, harvesting, preserving, and cooking. It is so rare to see all these topics covered so thoroughly in one book. The way the book is organized is very helpful - there are chapters on specific topics, including a chapter of recipes. In the crop guide there are pages for each specific crop with tips, common issues, storage tips, and even a handy "growing difficulty level." I love that the chapter about planning your garden is followed by a chapter about different growing techniques like in containers, raised beds, etc. This is really a fantastic, all-around gardening book that covers so much information but still in a readable, easy to use way. I would HIGHLY recommend this one!



What's Eating Us: women, food, and the epidemic of body anxiety by Cole Kazdin

Cole Kazdin was one of the millions of women who suffered from an eating disorder at some point in her life. She was able to get treatment, and while that treatment didn't cure her it did start her on a path of recovery that did improve over time. But, it still continues to be something she struggles with. In this book she discovers that there hasn't been tons of research done around eating disorders, what causes them, what's the best way to treat them, etc. I agree with the author that most people don't view eating disorders as a mental illness, people think it's either a way to get attention or just a phase that teen/college girls go through. Maybe if more people viewed it as a mental illness it would get better studies, funding for treatment, etc. (although TONS of research has been done around schizophrenia and it hasn't been cured and treatments aren't much better than in the 1970's). This book is part memoir of Kazdin's own struggles with an eating disorder and part highlighting just how little is being done to help people suffering from this issue. I think writing this book helped the author almost as much or more as the official treatment she received because she really found a lot of support from other people through her research. I did find it a little odd that she included her struggle with infertility in the last 2 chapters of the book. While health overall can impact fertility, there is no hard data that shows people who've had eating disorders struggle more with infertility than anyone else. I also agree with a few of the reviews I read that said it was a little repetitive, especially with data - possibly because there's not much data out there. But, I did not expect to laugh out loud while reading a book about eating disorders, so I do think the author is a good writer. I found it an interesting book overall even though I have never struggled with an eating disorder.

Some quotes I liked:

"'I met with a nutritionist the other day,' my friend Joanie tells me. 'She asked what I ate for breakfast, and when I told her 'toast,' she said that was the absolute worst thing I could be eating.' Joanie blew air through her lips and I could feel the anger coming. 'Fuck her,' she said. 'Why can't I eat toast?'" (p. 20)

"Strong research supports the idea that when we decide to eliminate a food from our diet, a neurological response is triggered that actually makes us want it more. In the aptly named 'forbidden fruit' experiment, researchers found that the mere act of restricting or cutting out a particular food triggers the brain to become more responsive to that food. 'Those increased thoughts could result in an unhealthy preoccupation with the food, or to obsessive thoughts about it, which could produce mental anguish,' according to the study." (p. 26)

"Noom is part of a larger trend of weight loss companies masquerading as health-and-wellness programs. As consumers have become savvier and backlash against diet culture grows, the diet industry is adapting. 'They've co-opted the language of the body positivity movement, terms like 'anti-diet' and 'we're not about weight loss, we're about health,'' said psychologist Alexis Conason. 'It capitalized on our awareness that diets don't work. They promise the best of both worlds: You can reject dieting and still lose weight. But it's not true. It's a weight loss company, reinforcing those same oppressive norms that the body positivity movements are fighting against.'" (p. 41)

"Failure is the business model for the weight loss industry, according to Mann's research, and companies rely on repeat customers who return after gaining back lost weight. 'People blame themselves for a diet not working but they should be blaming the diet,' said Mann. 'I don't think this business can survive without repeat customers, and the only way they can have repeat customers is if their product doesn't work.'" (p. 42)

"In fact, less than 6 percent of people with eating disorders are medically diagnosed as underweight, according to the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders. People in larger bodies are half as likely as those at a 'normal weight' or 'underweight' to be diagnosed with an eating disorder. As with so many other mental illnesses, there's no way to tell from the outside." (p. 50)

"At my sickest, I didn't look like the classic, dying, after-school-special anorexic. At least not with my clothes on. I just looked very thin. One or two people took me aside and told me I looked gaunt and was anything wrong? But 99 percent of the people I saw and worked with every day told me I looked amazing and asked what my secret was. Throwing up. Starving. Exercising compulsively." (p. 52)

"She views the so-called obesity epidemic more as a function of a changing food environment as opposed to a bunch of people who can't control themselves. It removes blame from the individual. Sure, there have always been and will always be people in larger bodies since the beginning of time. A lot of it is simply genetic. But now there are more of them, and Schwartz's research shows that this increase has a lot to do with the environment. Specifically, fast food, and foods that the average person would put in the 'junk food' category: soda, chips, candy, and other things you'd find in most vending machines. 'This isn't a willpower issue,' Tobias told me. 'It's a food environment that's specifically designed to override our biology. The R & D (research and development) to come up with a new Dorito flavor is insane and the whole point of sales. They want it to be something that you eat not once. That you eat one hundred times.'" (p. 90)



Dear Prudence: liberating lessons from Slate.com's beloved advice column by Daniel Lavery

Who doesn't love a good advice column? I guess if you don't, this is not the book for you. But, if you're a Dear Prudence reader or like advice columns in general then I think you would enjoy this book. Daniel Lavery was the 4th "Prudence" answering the Dear Prudence column on slate.com. He explains how he got the role and his take on answering advice column questions. The book is basically divided into sections based on the topic of the questions and includes several questions and Lavery's responses. I liked that he sometimes added or noted where he would now give different advice or an update to his original advice. Overall, it was a quick, fun read and I always liked reading the Dear Prudence column so it was nice to have a longer collection all together here.

Also, as an aside, until reading this book I did not realize that Daniel (who was Mallory Ortberg pre-transition) was John Ortberg's child. I knew John Ortberg from his Christian living books. Sadly, John Ortberg was forced to resign his role as head pastor of his church after Daniel found out his younger brother, John Ortberg III, had inappropriate feelings towards children and was allowed to continue serving in Children's ministry in their father's church. While I applaud Daniel for forcing this issue to be handled properly, it's extremely disappointing to see yet another Christian pastor/leader go down in flames because of not addressing inappropriate behavior in their church. Lavery tells this story not just to tell it but to highlight his own issues with family estrangement as those kinds of questions were often submitted to the Dear Prudence column and he has some very personal experience with that.



Ultra-Processed People: the science behind food that isn't food by Chris van Tulleken

Chris van Tulleken was working in a lab at University College London while working on his PhD. During his time there the lab staff would often present recent scientific publications and they would discuss the paper and whatever experiments or data was presented. An article was discussed that made the argument that "junk DNA" wasn't dead but was being suppressed by other cells or DNA and could be activated by certain criteria. This was a lightbulb moment for van Tulleken because he realized that our bodies are much more complex than even scientists often realize. After his time in the university lab, van Tulleken focused from viruses to the food industry and how food affects our bodies. In this book he makes the case that what he calls "ultra-processed food" or UPF is transforming our bodies in ways we don't even understand yet. He even participated in an experiment himself of eating only UPF for 4 weeks with bloodwork before and after to evaluate how it affected him. The basic premise is that ultra-processed foods are more harmful to our bodies than the same exact food that is homemade - for example a microwave lasagna is worse for you to eat than lasagna made from scratch. Scientists aren't entirely sure why this is, but this is important information as UPF is more and more prevalent. While the book has some good points and the experiments about eating UPF were interesting it is a VERY scientific book. There are very detailed descriptions of scientific experiments and studies that are not geared towards the regular reader. I skimmed over some of the heavy science content because there was a LOT. I do think this is important information, but I hesitate to recommend this one because it is so science-heavy and I just think the average reader (even someone very interested in this topic) would be overwhelmed.

Some quotes I liked:

"UPF now makes up as much as 60 per cent of the average diet in the UK and the USA." (p. 5)

"UPF has a long, formal scientific definition, but it can be boiled down to this: if it's wrapped in plastic and has at least one ingredient that you wouldn't usually find in a standard home kitchen, it's UPF. Much of it will be familiar to you as 'junk food,' but there's plenty of organic, free-range, 'ethical' UPF too, which might be sold as healthy, nutritious, environmentally friendly or useful for weight loss (it's another rule of thumb that almost every food that comes with a health claim on the packet is a UPF)." (p. 6)

"Sometimes entirely novel products and textures are created - things like gummy sweets or lentil-foam crisps - but usually the aim of UPF is to replace the ingredients of a traditional and much-loved food with cheaper alternatives and additives that extend shelf life, facilitate centralised distribution and, it turns out, drive excess consumption." (p. 20)

"Having solved the problems of cottonseed oil, P&G began a large campaign marketing de-toxified oil as Crisco, an acronym for crystallised cottonseed oil...By 1920, use of the product was widespread. Crisco shortening, essentially a fake lard, was possibly the first mass-produced UPF." (p. 28)

"But there is a wealth of data about the pharmaceutical industry, as well as other industries, showing that, when an industry funds science, it biases the results in favor of that industry." (p. 66)

"And then there's the fact that Carlos Monteiro found a bag of sugar on the table to be a sign of health in his research, because it signified a household that cooked. That doesn't, however, mean that sugar is healthy. It simply means that our diets are so terrible that buying your own sugar to make your own sweet food at home is healthier than buying pre-made industrial UPF with sugar added at source." (p. 118-119)

"Coke is not a public health agency. They aggressively sell drinks that, when consumed in excess, harm children and adults (although what constitutes excess is not written on the can, or anywhere else that I have been able to find). I don't want Coke shut down, but it seems uncontroversial to suggest that respectable health journals shouldn't publish research funded by Coca-Cola any more than they should publish health research funded by the tobacco industry...Coke should not fund public health programmes, and should have no influence over public health policy. The relationship between Coke and health policymakers should be adversarial - not collaborative." (p. 135)

"'Factory farming and UPFs are two sides of the same industrial food coin,' [Rob] Percival said. 'And then, of course, lots (though not all) of that factory farmed meat is subsequently turned into UPF.' The result of this is that, of the thousands of different strains of plants and breeds of animals that have been cultivated since the birth of agriculture, just twelve plants and five animals now make up 75 per cent of all the food eaten or thrown away on earth." (p. 257-58)



Ejaculate Responsibly: a whole new way to think about abortion by Gabrielle Blair

In this succinct book Gabrielle Blair lays out 28 reasons why unwanted pregnancies should be an issue for men (instead of just for women). The main headline as the title states is that men should be just as responsible for birth control as women. Men are fertile ALL THE TIME and for their ENTIRE lives, yet typically the onus is on women to deal with all things birth control. An obvious reason for this is that women are the ones who actually carry and give birth to the child, so in many ways it is more on the woman to manage her fertility because there are more consequences for her. But, as Blair points out it is society that often absolves men from their consequences and puts more of the weight on women. While I agree with her main points, I did feel the book was repetitive with many of the same points being made again just with different wording. I also think encouraging/suggesting that men should get vasectomies because they can be reversed is not a wholly logical suggestion. I think for permanent birth control - yes - but not as a normal method of birth control for someone who does want children in the future. To me the biggest point of this book is that couples need to discuss things more. If a woman is struggling with the side effects of birth control then that needs to be addressed with her partner (and doctor). If your partner isn't willing to take the reins on this or consider alternatives, then do you really want to be having sex with that person?! Some of these issues around birth control also speak to larger issues of women's emotional labor overall. I also liked that Blair started out by saying this is not a for or against abortion debate, but rather a new way of looking at this issue because without unwanted pregnancies there would be far, far few abortions. So regardless of where you stand on the issue of abortion, it's worth thinking about why has this become a "women's issue" when it still takes two to tango.

Some quotes I liked:

"Murder is the leading cause of death for pregnant women, often committed by the man who impregnated them. If that doesn't underscore the power dynamic in sexual relationships, I don't know what will." (p. 86)

"The United States, one of the richest countries in the world, is ranked #56 in maternal mortality - that's dead last among industrialized countries." (p. 95)

"The vast majority of those interested in relinquishing their child through adoption never seriously consider abortion. And for those who are denied access to abortion, 91 percent still won't choose adoption." (p. 104)

"Colorado created a program that made birth control free and easily accessible. The result? Abortion rates fell by almost half. And not just Colorado - St. Louis had a similar program with great results. As a bonus, these programs can save millions of dollars. The health department in Colorado reported that every dollar spent on that birth control initiative saved $5.85 for Colorado's Medicaid program." (p. 119)



On Our Best Behavior: the seven deadly sins and the price women pay to be good by Elise Loehnen

Any woman in the United States (and I'm sure anywhere in the world) understands that there are unwritten societal rules for women. Even in the age of #metoo and women-run companies there is still a double standard for what is acceptable and expected for women versus men. Elise Loehnen explores this from an interesting premise - that these expectations are based on the seven deadly sins. Whether you're religious or not, these ideas still come into play in the expectations for the lives and behavior of women. A monk named Evagrius Ponticus wrote a book called Talking Back that was organized into 8 books which identify eight "inner demons." Two centuries later, Pope Gregory I cut out sadness and created the "seven deadly sins" we're familiar with today - sloth, envy, pride, gluttony, greed, lust, and anger. Pope Gregory also ascribed all seven deadly sins to Mary Magdalene, starting the beginning of women being the root of all evil and temptation in the world. Fast forward to today and women are still being judged and held up against these seven deadly sins. Loehnen tells a lot of her own personal story in each of the chapters about each "deadly sin" and how women can fight back against these unfair standards and expectations. To me it was an eye-opening book and I'm someone very well-read on women's issues and feminism. I thought her arguments made sense and she did a good job of both showing how these expectations play out for women and how to change and fight back against them too.

I was surprised that the majority of negative reviews were because she used to be the chief content officer for goop. I'm not a fan of goop but that wouldn't have stopped me from reading this book. Loehnen has had several different jobs all in the magazine/publishing world and only very briefly mentions goop in the book. There were also a few other negative reviews that seemed to have missed the point entirely and were expecting some sort of history of the seven deadly sins - which this book never claims to be. Overall, I really liked it and felt like this was a unique look at society's expectations for women and now in knowing this we can better fight against these expectations in our own lives and work to make our society more equal for everyone.

LOTS of quotes I liked:

"While the Old Testament's Ten Commandments are concrete, the Seven Deadly Sins are amorphous, ripe for interpretation, which may have something to do with their continued potency. They are not about objective, tangible bad actions (you stole, you killed, you cheated); they are about human qualities where one crosses an imperceptible yet defining line (you are slutty, greedy, lazy!). And because they are subjective, they are easy to brandish like a whip. It's impossible to pinpoint the moment when you've transgressed. How much food is gluttonous? When does meeting your needs morph into greed?" (p. xviii)

"In its first emergence, Christianity was not the organized, religious arm of the patriarchy: In fact, it's easy to find textual evidence of Jesus's feminism. Yet early church fathers conveniently ignored this, eventually creating a canon that ensured the second-class status of women." (p. 9)

"The early promise of technology was to improve efficiency to liberate us from constant toil. In reality, it's done the opposite. The idea of fallow time, creative time, time for sitting and thinking or for visiting with an office mate suggests that you're not maximizing your yield, that there's room to give or do more." (p. 32)

"According to a Gallup poll that tracked the roles of men and women in U.S. households from 1996 to 2019, while the gap between women and men is tightening, the gender roles are as entrenched as ever: Women are more likely to do laundry (58 percent to 13 percent), prepare meals (51 percent to 17 percent), clean house (51 percent to 9 percent), grocery shop (45 percent to 18 percent), and wash dishes (42 percent to 19 percent). Both sexes are equally likely to pay routine bills. And then men take over when it comes to decisions about money (31 percent to 18 percent), keeping the car in good condition (69 percent to 12 percent), and performing yardwork (59 percent to 10 percent). It's depressing." (p. 40)

"While some of the pay gap is flat-out bias - women of equal experience earning less than men in the exact same role - the reason the pay gap is so stark is that so many of the jobs of 'care' in this country (teaching, nursing and home healthcare, food services, housekeeping, and childcare) pay the worst. This essential support is perceived as low-authority, low-status 'women's work' of lesser value. (Men in the care categories typically outearn women, a double slap)...According to a 2021 survey, male nurses (who comprise only 12 percent of the nursing workforce) earned an average of $38.61 an hour versus female nurses, who made $35.88 - annually, this $2.74 difference adds up to almost $6k a year." (p. 53)

"If you're single or childless, your value in the capitalist market approaches that of a man - but socially, you're perceived as broken or selfish. Pick your path. If you're a mother who doesn't work outside the home, you're wasting your potential. If you're a mother who does work outside the home, you're damaging your children." (p. 54)

"What I learned in boarding school is what I've witnessed at work lunches and dinners with friends in the years since - not complete abstention but a hypervigilance about food akin to a perpetual diet of can'ts and won'ts. Now, among fellow mom friends in our metabolism-waning forties, we've gone beyond an annual diet or cleanse to permanent restriction or orthorexia...Nobody looks ill; it's just an obsession that's not about health and it only tenuously about vanity. It's really about the fear of losing control." (p. 128)

"Rape and sexual assault are about entitlement because men can - and typically do - get away with it. Of every 1,000 sexual assaults that even make it to the criminal justice system, approximately 975 perpetrators walk free." (p. 187)

"The public perception of anger is that it's only ever righteous and proper for men to be visibly enraged. Therapist Harriet Lerner, who wrote the 1987 classic The Dance of Anger, nails this concept in a way that still holds true three decades later: 'The direct expression of anger, especially at men, makes us unladylike, unfeminine, unmaternal, sexually unattractive, or, more recently, 'strident.' Even our language condemns such women as 'shrews,' 'witches,' 'bitches,' 'hags,' 'nags,' 'man-haters,' and 'castrators.' They are unloving and unlovable. They are devoid of femininity....It is an interesting sidelight that our language - created and codified by men - does not have one unflattering term to describe men who vent their anger at women. Even such epithets as 'bastard' and 'son of a bitch' do not condemn the man but place the blame on a woman - his mother!'" (p. 210-211)

"This 'ill health' that [Gabor] Maté [a family medicine doctor and addiction specialist] mentions is the rampant autoimmune disease that overwhelmingly affects women, which he has treated and written about for decades: He continually points to women with 'superautonomous self-sufficiency,' or an unwillingness to ask anything of anyone else, as well as 'niceness' and its correlation with cancer, ALS, and autoimmune diseases like rheumatoid arthritis." (p. 223)