Monday, April 1, 2024

March 2024 Cookbook Reviews

 


The Art of Extract Making by Paul and Jill Fulton

This is a unique cookbook in that it is all about extract making. The author gives a great overview of vanilla beans and how they are grown, harvested, sorted, sold, etc. Then he gets into actually making the extract - what kind of spirits to use, jars/containers, and other details. The last section is a variety of extract recipes. I thought the book was very thorough and did a good job of walking you through making your own extract. I just made my first batch of homemade vanilla extract last year and I'm excited to continue making extracts and might try some of their recipes in the future. I was also lucky enough to be able to visit the Hawaiian Vanilla Company on the Big Island of Hawaii back in 2014 and actually see how vanilla is grown and harvested in person. I was also able to get very reasonably priced vanilla beans at the local farmers markets in Hawaii. If you're curious about making your own vanilla extract definitely check out this book.




Tacos & Tequila by Cider Mill Press

I was really excited to check out this cookbook but it was a little disappointing. There were 3 basic recipe categories - tacos, fixings, and cocktails. The taco recipes were basically just proteins or main fillings - I was hoping for more combinations of ingredients in one taco recipe. There were several recipes for things I didn't know what they were. I think a one or two sentence description especially for something not common would have gone a long way. If you want cocktail recipes there were A LOT so it lived up to the title that way. There were a couple recipes I wanted to try but I wasn't impressed overall.



The Farm Table by Julius Roberts

Julius Roberts was working in a London restaurant but was realizing that he didn't enjoy the restaurant hours/life. He had always been interested in the ingredients and the head chef's constant search for the best quality ingredients. So he quit his chef job and moved out to his family's home in Suffolk where there was more land and he could grow some vegetables and raise some animals. He started with 4 pigs then continued to add animals and gardens until he outgrew that space and needed to find a larger farm further out. What I liked the most about this book was his introductions to each section (the recipes are organized by season) where he talked about what was going on at the farm during that season. I also love how honest he was about how hard it is to raise animals and then slaughter them. There weren't tons of recipes I wanted to try personally, but I love that he organized them by season and there are lots of beautiful pictures of both the food and the farm.



 





March 2024 Reviews

 


Eat Everything by Dawn Harris Sherling, MD

When Dr. Sherling first started practicing medicine she encountered a patient who was having gut related issues and was down to only being able to eat granola bars. After extensive testing, Dr. Sherling was no closer to a diagnosis for the patient than when they first started. Throughout her career she continued to see people with these type of gut issues that had no obvious diagnosis - then it started happening to her too. It was on a family vacation to Italy that helped open her eyes. In Italy Dr. Sherling could eat all the foods that caused her problems at home - dairy, wheat, etc. What she found was that in Italy food was almost exclusively made with local, whole ingredients. In the US most people consume a lot of ultra-processed foods full of additives and emulsifiers. These additives and emulsifiers can wreak havoc on our microbiome, the good bacteria and fungi in our digestive tracts. In this book Dr. Sherling shows us her journey and how she now tries to help her patients with a whole-food focused diet in addition to any medications they may need. The book is divided into 3 sections - the first section explores what is wrong with our food and why these additives are causing health problems, the second section looks at specific types of foods and how to source better quality ingredients/foods, and the third section is how this plays out in real life with tips for still eating out, managing weight, and dealing with or finding the right diagnosis. In the Appendixes she includes a list of additives and why they might be problematic, a sample weekly meal plan for focusing on whole foods, and 25 whole-food based recipes. Overall, while I didn't agree with EVERYTHING she said this is a pretty impressive book. Dr. Sherling explores yet another layer of our industrial food system that is bad for us and how we can do better.

I'm thankful that I don't have any gut/digestion issues, but even if like me you don't have these issues these additives are not good and it's much better to eat whole foods anyway. I would add to her suggestions sourcing locally grown/raised food from local farmers. Or even better grow some of your own food too with a vegetable garden. I've found that homegrown vegetables taste WAY better than store bought and you're much more likely to eat the stuff you took the time to grow. I'm already a big proponent of homemade, from-scratch cooking so this book was right up my alley.

Two quotes I disagree with:

"You may have a hard time finding unadulterated cream on store shelves (at least without a co-op market or dairy nearby) because without some kind of emulsifying agent, the pasteurization process causes the cream to separate as it sits in the store's refrigerator. So you either need fairly fresh pasteurized cream or really fresh unpasteurized cream to go additive-free. As a physician, I cannot recommend drinking unpasteurized cream. Pasteurization has prevented thousands of deaths and millions of illnesses. It isn't a bad thing. It just makes finding good cream a challenge. Listeria, the bacteria you can get from unpasteurized dairy, is worse than additives." (p. 83)
[I personally know people who had life-long gut/digestive issues that were cured with raw milk. Yes, getting Listeria is MUCH worse than additives. But, raw milk can often be consumed even by people who are lactose intolerant and has so many benefits that pasteurization removes. The problem with most food-born illnesses is the industrialization part. How did people drink milk in the pre-pasteurization time and not all die from Listeria? Small and local is how.]

"After the highly successful introduction of sugar, and later high-fructose corn syrup, the cereal additives just kept coming. With an emphasis on marketing and convenience, more traditional breakfast foods didn't stand a chance. And so today we have an entire aisle in the grocery store devoted to ultra-processed breakfast bits delivered in brightly colored cardboard boxes...But you will have to pry the cereal box out of my cold, sleepy hand. One kid won't get out of bed. The other can't find her shoes. And we all need to get going! Mornings are challenging in most homes, and cereal provides a cheap and quick solution - one that most kids over the age of six can handle getting for themselves." (p. 92)
[I was REALLY surprised to see a medical doctor advocate for breakfast cereal. Cereal is one of the absolute WORST things you can eat with almost no nutritional value. And as for cheap? It is $5-8 for a box of Cheerios ($3+ for the generic store brand). Compare that to a dozen eggs. Eggs are a MUCH better breakfast and only take about 5 minutes to cook. There are PLENTY of other breakfast options that are much better than cereal.]



Buttermilk Graffiti by Edward Lee - Books & Banter and Evening Edition book clubs, Community Read, re-read

Edward Lee spent two years traveling the US exploring immigrant food. Immigrants are what makes up America, so how do immigrants incorporate their food into their new culture and how does American food change with the influence of all this immigrant food? These are some of the questions Lee explores in this book. Each chapter focuses on a specific ethnic food in a small town in America. Often it's surprising as Lee claims the best Jewish Deli is in Indianapolis, or there is a huge Middle Eastern population and food culture in Dearborn, Michigan. Lee says, "The plate of food has never been the be-all and end-all for me. Quite the opposite: for me, good food is just the beginning of a trail that leads back to a person whose story is usually worth telling." (p. 32) and that is exactly what he does in this book he highlights not just ethnic food all over the US, but the specific people who are cooking this food and their stories. Definitely an interesting look at just how diverse the food culture is here in the US.

Notes on re-reading for Community Read 3/1 - 3/6/24:

I didn't enjoy this as much this time as I remember liking it the first time. I think it's just a case of bad reading timing. While I do like his writing and he is entertaining, this time reading it it just came across inauthentic to me. Like he would be irritated when strangers in a restaurant or bar didn't want to chat it up with him - dude, you're a stranger to them that's creepy. This time reading it I felt like he was trying to be like Anthony Bourdain on his TV shows - but those were obviously planned they didn't just film Bourdain trying to talk to strangers. I wasn't as impressed this time but I am looking forward to seeing him speak at our library event.

Some quotes I liked this time:

[I forgot that he mentioned Staunton, VA in the book which is now a place I go at least once a year thanks to Joel Salatin and Polyface Farm.]

[On talking about the longevity of Shapiro's deli in Indianapolis] "'All the chefs these days are artists, and that's fine, but then you have a restaurant linked to an individual, not a tradition. There will never be a restaurant that lasts one hundred years anymore. Chefs change their food depending on the trends. We don't.' 'So there is no chef here?' 'We don't call them chefs. It is family recipes that are made by everyone. It speaks to the culture of a group, not an individual. If we persist in making food that is an individual expression, our restaurants will only last as long as the artist's whim or the public's attention span. This...' he gestures to the room. 'This can go on forever.'" (p. 325)

"I hate it that these women, the true guardians of this tradition, are getting overlooked. They are the ones who kept this food alive while the culinary world was busy fawning over European or California cuisine. For Janice and Shirley Mae, food was never about a trend or a concept. It was, and is, their heritage. And because of women like them, we now have an actual flavor profile we can reference when we talk about dishes such as pork neck and turnip greens. It's a living thing, not just words in a historical text." (p. 356)

"Their two approaches to cornbread are not simply a variation in technique. They represent a rift in their upbringing: one rural and the other urban. I never would have made that distinction if I had not talked to them at length. I would simply have assumed that they made different cornbreads for reasons that random. It took me a long time to understand that their choices in their cornbread recipes tell an intimate story of their past." (p. 358-59)



Of Time and Turtles: mending the world, shell by shattered shell by Sy Montgomery

I love Sy Montgomery's writing and I ALWAYS learn something new when I read her books. Of Time and Turtles is no exception. Shortly before the COVID pandemic Sy and her friend Matt Patterson start volunteering with the Turtle Rescue League (or TRL for short). This New England rescue does a LOT for turtles - rescuing injured turtles and rehabilitating them, marking and protecting turtle nests, incubating rescued turtle eggs, even providing long term for turtles they've saved but for varying reason can't be released back into the wild. The book spans two years starting at the beginning of 2020 and going into 2022. While I could have done without some of the COVID related comments (death tolls, how the vaccine will save everyone, etc.) it wasn't super heavy handed. I was honestly amazed at the work TRL does for the turtle world in New England - driving all over to pick up injured or discarded turtles, spending a lot of time caring for seriously injured turtles, and much, much more. Turtles really are amazing animals and Montgomery does a great job of highlighting just how unique they are, as well as just how long they can live (up to 200 years!). I've always been someone who stops on the side of the road for a turtle and helps them across but after reading this book I will keep my eyes even more peeled for turtles.

The main thing I could have done without in the book was the chapter that revealed that Alexxia and Natasha (the couple who runs TRL) are both transgender women. That really added NOTHING to the story, their rescue work, anything. It just felt like it was mentioned because trans everything is such a focus right now. Honestly I was like why is she including this. If either of the women were writing a book about their rescue and how/why they started it that would make sense, but it felt unnecessary to add that into this book. Otherwise, the work they do is amazing and Montgomery's experience with their rescue made for an interesting book and anyone would look at turtles differently after reading this.

Some terrifying statistics and data:

"Turtles are a red-hot commodity in the ruthless world of the illegal wildlife trade. Like the underground market for guns, drugs, and sex, turtle trafficking is networked, clandestine, and lucrative. A single Yunnan box turtle could command $200,000 on the black market. A Chinese three-striped box turtle, whose powdered plastron is rumored (incorrectly) to cure cancer, can fetch as much as $25,000. In many parts of Asia - where most of the stolen turtles turn up in phony elixirs (often claimed, due to turtles' longevity, to preserve youthful beauty in women or sexual potency in men), as tortoiseshell accessories like pens and bracelets, or sold as prestigious pets - more than three quarters of the native species are either threatened with extinction or already gone from their natural homes. So many Asian turtles have been 'vacuumed from the wild,' as one TSA [Turtle Survival Alliance] video puts it, that now the reptiles are being snatched from ponds, woodlands, and seas of the United States to be illegally shipped to feed this malignant market." (p. 31-32)

"A survey by the State University of New York biologist James Gibbs estimated that in the Northeast, Great Lakes, and southeastern U.S., in areas crisscrossed by roads, up to twenty percent of the adult turtle population is killed by cars each year....Results of another study, concentrating on snappers living in an Ontario-area wetland bisected by a highway, were equally dire: Here, in the seventeen years between 1985 and 2002, the snapper population dropped from 941 to 177. The researchers predicted that things would only get worse. The snappers would soon be gone from the swamp." (p. 51)

"The National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration estimates that the odds of a sea turtle hatchling surviving to adulthood may range from an unlikely one in one thousand to an almost impossible one in ten thousand. Survival rates may be even more disheartening for the less-studied freshwater turtles and tortoises. Some researchers estimate that as many as ninety percent of snapping turtle eggs may be destroyed before the babies are even born. 'I used to find turtle eggshells outside the nest and think, Oh great, baby turtles hatched here,' Jeanne tells Matt and me. But because hatchlings leave their eggshells behind, in their underground nests, seeing scattered eggshells aboveground means that predators got them." (p. 84)



The Meth Lunches: food and longing in an American city by Kim Foster

I wasn't really sure what to expect with this book but it definitely delved into some things I wasn't expecting. The book starts out (and gets the title) when Foster's family moves from NYC to Las Vegas, Nevada and need some work done on their house. They go through an agency that matches out of work laborers with homeowners who need work done. The family meets Charlie who is semi-homeless due to his meth addiction. As his addiction progresses Foster starts referring to their meals with Charlie as The Meth Lunches. Next we get into the Foster family becoming foster parents and some of the CRAZY things that come along with that - including Foster finding the mother of one of their foster children in jail and bringing the kid to her for visits (I'm pretty sure she was NOT supposed to do that) and overall getting overly involved with the families of some of their foster kids. Then COVID hits and Foster starts up a food pantry to replace a little free library in their yard - this also devolves into craziness and drug addicts routinely stealing meat to sell for drugs and showing up at all hours demanding food supposedly for "several" families but again likely taking it to resell for drug money.

In all of these instances Foster seems to get WAY overly involved with all of these people. I think her intentions were good but I worried for her family and the amount of potential danger she was exposing them to every day. Her food pantry eventually gets shut down when it's reported by another food pantry operator (apparently there is a lot of rivalry and competition between food pantry operators - who knew?!). While there was a lot of interesting information, a lot of the stories seemed pretty far out there. It seemed like she was addicted to chaos and got very quickly invested in all these people's lives more than she should have possibly. It seemed a little over the top to me. There was also a weird dichotomy between her vivid descriptions of all the ethnic food she made her family and the homeless or poverty-level people she was interacting with throughout the book. Overall, it was interesting but definitely a wild ride I wasn't totally expecting.

Some quotes I liked:

"Food can be a weapon. Food can be a way to control. And punish. And abuse. And force people to conform. The Meth Lunches with Charlie get me thinking about the severely wounded people in our new community and what food means and doesn't mean to them. I think about hoarding food. And giving food. And accepting food. And having no food at all. Food is a litmus test, I think. It must be. What we are eating and how we are eating tells us something integral about how we are doing, what our lives are like." (p. 29-30)

"Because humans need food, consistently, multiple times a day, food is one of the first ways children gauge how safe they are. Food, how much they get, when they get it, and how their caregiver provides for them when they cry out, sends a fundamental message about their worth in the world. That message is hardwired into their brain's pathways. It stays with them, always. Being fed consistently is safety." (p. 74)

"McDonald's offers something substantial to the communities it inhabits. For my son and many kids in the system, fast-food restaurants offer comfort. They provide consistency and permanence in their unpredictable lives. The burger always tastes the same. The nuggets. The fries. They never change. And wherever you go, whatever family takes you in this time, no matter how many times you move, the Play Place rocks the same colors. The same netting. The same slides and tunnels...Starbucks calls itself 'the third place,' the space we inhabit outside of home, work, school. But McDonald's is American's third place for a much larger, if less privileged, population...For the unhoused, addicted, and the hardest-struggling people in our communities, McDonald's offers luxuries, like Wi-Fi. Cheap food. Bathrooms. Outlets for phone charging. And a lenient staff who often allow people to hang out in booths, sipping coffee. It's a place to connect with other people, where no one will shoo you away." (p. 102-3)



Own Your Past Change Your Future by Dr. John Delony

I recently found Dr. John Delony on Instagram and really liked the clips from his podcast and work with Dave Ramsey so I decided to check out this book. I wasn't sure what to expect but I liked it. Like the title says he discusses how to Own Your Past Change Your Future. The book is divided into two sections - The Stories are the Problem and The Stories are the Solution. The first section looks at all the stories in our lives - stories you're born into, stories others tell about you, stories about relationships, stories we tell ourselves, etc. In the second section he gives some concrete tips for changing your future by addressing those stories and putting down the ones that aren't helpful. While also encouraging us to get connected, change our thoughts, and then change our actions. Interspersed throughout the book are his personal stories and stories from people he's helped in various roles Dr. Delony has held over the years. Overall, I thought the book could be helpful and several chapters have questions at the end to help you work through some of the stuff he's talking about. I was also impressed that he had quotes from Andy Gullahorn and Andrew Peterson - two amazing musicians I enjoy and follow.



Praisesong for the Kitchen Ghosts by Crystal Wilkinson

This is a beautifully written memoir/family history highlighting all the women in Crystal Wilkinson's family line and how cooking was their legacy and way of showing love. Crystal became the family keeper of stories and family recipes. Looking back at five generations of Wilkinson women Crystal tells their family story through food. She is also telling the story of Black Appalachian history through cooking as well. Going from slavery days to the modern day this beautifully written collection of essays will make you want to get in the kitchen and make some of your own food memories. Each essay covers a food topic and is followed by a few recipes that are mentioned in that essay or Crystal's updated version. There is a struggle between keeping family recipes in the traditional way and creating more modern/updated versions. I thought Crystal did a great job illuminating that struggle. She was vegetarian off and on for 20 years and at times wouldn't eat her grandmother's food that was seasoned with pork and her grandmother never understood that. Today Crystal tries to keep her family's cooking legacy alive by making both the traditional recipes and her own updated/recreated versions. I just can't reiterate enough how beautifully written this book is. I wish it was twice as long so I could keep reading more. There are several recipes I'd like to try as well.

Some quotes I liked:

"I reach back in my memory. I can see us there on the hillside, but I have forgotten so much that I thought I'd never need. I am a child of plenty. I was never hungry. Food was never scarce. When I was a child, I thought this information was expendable...By the time I came along, my grandmother was already putting the harder days of her life behind her. Days of hunger pangs and worry about how she and my grandfather would feed their seven children were gone. She wanted to show me the family's old ways, but we weren't out at first light when the dew dried out of necessity." (p. 41)

"During slavery and even after manumission, not many Black people had the fortune of eating 'high on the hog' (loins, pork chops, ham). Instead they adapted with resilience and skill and made the offal 'low parts' into delicacies. My grandfather often recalled a recurring heartbreak he suffered as a young husband and father. A racist man he worked for refused even the offal to him. 'He would rather see the chitlins rot on the ground than see me take them home to feed my young'uns,' Grandaddy said. The resounding ancestral memory of my people doing without echoes loud in me still." (p. 194)

"It never dawned on me that my daughters wouldn't be exactly like me, staunch feminists who lean into their domesticated side. While Ron washes all the dishes, launders our clothes, keeps the house clean, I work outside our home as a writer and professor and I cook all the meals. I don't have to cook and sometimes I don't, but cooking is how I commune with our ancestors. I love cooking. It's one way that my family knows I care. Wouldn't my children follow in my footsteps? Perhaps it's my generation, but I've never seen cooking as an oppressive act, though it was for some of my foremothers." (p. 229-230)

"I have the privilege of education, of making a living from my mind and not my domestic labor in a white woman's kitchen. I cook out of homage, for pleasure, and not by bound duty. I am keenly aware that Black Appalachian foodways are a legacy to be treasured, to be passed on to the next and the next and the next. I'm thankful that my children and grandchildren will find their own ways to morph and change culinary traditions, to add to and subtract from their mother's mother's mother's ways, to honor the calling of the kitchen ghosts, however they see fit." (p. 233)



Secrets of the Octopus by Sy Montgomery

This is a book all about the octopus complete with tons of beautiful, color photos. If you're a fan/reader of Sy Montgomery then you probably are already familiar with her book The Soul of an Octopus about her time working directly with octopuses at the New England Aquarium and even learning to scuba dive so she could try to find octopuses in the wild. There is a little overlap in content, but this book is mainly just about octopuses and not her personal experiences with them. It's divided into 3 sections - Masters of Camouflage, Gelatinous Geniuses, and Octopus Kingdom. After the epilogue there is also a section of "octoprofiles" with profiles of 16 octopuses and cuttlefish. Pulling from cutting edge science, Montgomery shows just how incredibly smart, unique, and interesting octopuses are. There were several funny stories about octopuses from either aquariums or laboratories where they pulled pranks, escaped tanks, invaded other tanks to eat the fish inside, flooded rooms and even shorted out the electricity three days in a row (before the keepers figured out the octopus didn't like a nearby bright light). In short, everything we know about octopuses is constantly changing and they can be very hard to study in both captivity and the wild. But this book highlights some of their most unique characteristics and the included photographs completely make the book. Overall, if you're interested in octopuses this is a great book to check out.

A quote I liked:

"Keepers at SEA LIFE Kelly Tarlton's Aquarium in Auckland, New Zealand, taught their female giant Pacific octopus, named Rambo, to thread her arm down a tube to press an orange button to take photos of visitors with a waterproof digital camera - making her the world's first documented 'octographer.' Other institutions have encouraged their octopuses to exploit their artistic talent. Oregon State University's Hatfield Marine Science Center devised a system of levers that allowed its giant Pacific octopus to move a series of paint brushes against a canvas outside her tank. After their first octopus painter, Squirt, became a sensation, other aquariums in Tennessee and Florida trained more octopus artists." (p. 103-106) [I would TOTALLY buy an octopus photo or painting!]













Tuesday, March 5, 2024

February 2024 Cookbook Reviews

 


The Fresh-Milled Flour Bread Book by Tim Giuffi

I've started getting into milling my own flour and my library hasn't had very many books on the subject at all. So, when I saw this one I definitely wanted to check it out. But, almost immediately I was disappointed. The author talks about how he got into milling and baking in the Introduction, then talks about grain mills and different types of grains. Then it goes right into the recipes. My issue? At least 2/3 of the recipes require a sourdough starter - that is not super obvious by the title. Yes, it is in the subtitle, but I would argue that the subtitle does not imply that ALL the recipes will be for sourdough. Also, there are a lot of tools and specific types of pans noted in the recipes with no explanation. I'm a good home cook and read a lot about cooking and food and I had to look some of the equipment up because I wasn't familiar with it. There is no section about recommended tools/pans/etc. or a chapter on how to start and maintain a sourdough starter. It was very disappointing because I felt like there wasn't enough information.



Week Light by Donna Hay

I had checked out a couple other cookbooks by Donna Hay so I decided to check this one out too. While I'm all about eating healthy, I just didn't see hardly any recipes I wanted to try. I did like that in the "basics to brilliance" chapter there was a base recipe and then several recipes using that base. If you really enjoy ethnic, vegetarian food I think this is the cookbook for you. But, if you want to eat healthier and still include meat and dairy there wasn't much here for you. I liked her other cookbooks that I checked out but I didn't like this one much.



Flour Lab: an at-home guide to baking with freshly milled grains by Adam Leonti

I've started getting into milling my own flour but have had a hard time finding cookbooks that are designed specifically around home milling. This one seems to fit the bill. I think I will end up buying this one because I felt like it was the most comprehensive one I've seen yet. I especially liked how much information he gave in the first few chapters about types of wheat, types of mills, general info about wheat and milling, supplies, cooking tips - then on to the recipes. While I haven't tried any of the recipes yet, they look pretty simple to follow and there is a wide variety of recipes. This book has definitely inspired me to source some more varieties of wheat and try to expand beyond just whole wheat bread.





February 2024 Reviews

 


I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy (Evening Edition book club)

I didn't know who Jennette McCurdy was and never watched either of her Nickelodeon shows iCarly or Sam & Cat. One of my book clubs voted this one in and as someone who often reads dysfunctional family memoirs I thought this would be a good fit for me. Jeannette's mother was obviously mentally ill (as was her grandmother and probably her father too) but it was hard for me figure out what exactly her diagnosis would have been - she was a hoarder, anorexic, extremely overly involved in her children's lives (to the point of still bathing them into their teens), and threw explosive tantrums when she didn't get her way. She was obviously narcissistic but there had to be more. Jeannette's mother's dream was to be an actor, so she pushed her only daughter into that role. Because of both that forced push into acting and all the underlying mental illness, Jeannette developed OCD, a SERIOUS eating disorder, alcoholism, and several extremely dysfunctional dating relationships. But she was also a movie/TV star. Even though that was all her mother ever wanted, it still wasn't enough. Thankfully, during Jeannette's run on Sam & Cat her mother died of cancer. Despite the title being somewhat of a dark joke, by the end of the book I was glad her mother died too, I just wish it had been earlier. It took Jeannette YEARS of self-destructive behavior before she finally started getting help and admitting to herself just how abusive her mother was to their family. The ending is somewhat hopeful, but this was a hard, hard read. I read hard stuff ALL THE TIME and I was glad to put this one down. After reading this book I wonder what her brothers experiences were like or if Jeannette got the worst of things since she was living her mother's dream. I felt bad for the whole family even though Jeannette's father and grandparents definitely helped enable her mother's behavior. Overall, this was a tough read and I probably would have only given it 3 stars but she is a good writer. I'll be curious what my book club members will think of this one.

A quote I liked:

"Fame has put a wedge between Mom and me that I didn't think was possible. She wanted this. And I wanted her to have it. I wanted her to be happy. But now that I have it, I realize that she's happy and I'm not. Her happiness came at the cost of mine. I feel robbed and exploited." (p. 121)



Crook Manifesto by Colson Whitehead (Books & Banter book club)

Crook Manifesto picks up with Ray Carney 4 years after Harlem Shuffle ended. Ray has decided to stay on the straight path and just run his furniture business on the up and up. But when his daughter is desperate to see the Jackson 5, he turns back to some of his shady connections to try to score tickets for her. This reopens the door to his crooked life with a bang. The book is divided into 3 sections and each section covers 3-4 years. In the first section Ray reconnects with a crooked white cop to get the concert tickets for his daughter. The second section brings back Pepper and follows his unusual security work on a movie set. The third section Ray and Pepper team up to try to track down an arsonist who injured the child of one of Ray's tenants.

I absolutely LOVED Harlem Shuffle and Ray Carney's struggle with whether to stay straight or bend toward crooked. This one was a disappointment. All the heist/criminal stories seemed really far-fetched, especially the first one with the crooked white cop. It felt very over the top and like something from a criminal action movie. The ending of the book is very ambiguous and really leaves you hanging. I know this is the second in a trilogy so that's probably on purpose. But for all the action the ending was just kind of lame. Whitehead's writing is wonderful and there were lots of great funny lines and quips, but I just didn't like this one. I will probably read #3 when it comes out just to see what does happen with Ray, but it will be hard to recommend this one.

Some quotes I liked:

[On the Carney house on Strivers Row] "Of course they were going to buy it. What else was an ongoing criminal enterprise complicated by periodic violence for, but to make your wife happy?" (p. 19)

"Carney still had the business card: Martin Green, Antiques. Why hadn't he thrown it out? Because he knew or wished a day like this might come. Crooked stays crooked." (p. 29)

"Carney had worked with the detective long enough to know he was lying, and lying about the tickets as well. It was his own fault. He had been on the straight and narrow for four years, but slip once and everybody is glad to help you slip hard. Crooked stays crooked and bent hates straight. The rest is survival." (p. 51)

"Hippie attire aside, black men generally kept their beards and mustaches fit and sharp, their Afros immaculate. These white kids walked around with stuff on their heads that - well, dead alley cats rotting behind garbage cans kept it more correct. The new shit was always upon you and you had to adjust, such was life, but the new shit came so fast these days, and it was so wily and unlikely, that he had a hard time keeping up." (p. 139)

"'I don't take money from guys like that.' Foot soldier for assholes? He'd already done that in World War II. No. A man has a hierarchy of crime, of what is morally acceptable and what is not, a crook manifesto, and those who subscribe to lesser codes are cockroaches." (p. 179)

"Poor girl makes good, was a more interesting story than suburban girl makes good, he supposed. Pepper had heard of passing for white before but passing for broke was a new one on him." (p. 194)

"Was the trio playing 'The Star-Spangled Banner'? This fucking bicentennial shit was driving Carney batty. It was inescapable, like a dome of red, white, and blue smog." (p. 214)

"Payback had healed the old crook - planning, anticipation, execution, and basking in his bloody ingenuity afterward. When her mother passed, Elizabeth got a copy of that book On Death and Dying, which identified the Five Stages of Grief. When Pepper was laid low, the Four Stages of Putting Your Foot Up Somebody's Ass provided similar comfort." (p. 278)



Disobedient Women by Sarah Stankorb

Disobedient Women is a hard but important read for any Christian. Sarah Stankorb is a journalist who has been reporting on religion and often on how people are harmed by religion. She found much of her early content from blogs in the early 2000's - the beginning of the "deconstruction" movement in evangelical Christianity. In this book she highlights several women who experienced sexual abuse in their churches and found the strength to stand up, call it out, and fight back. She covers 4 main churches/denominations - IBLP (Bill Gothard, Duggar family, and the Prime documentary Shiny Happy People), the Southern Baptist denomination, Sovereign Grace Ministries (CJ Mahaney and Joshua Harris of I Kissed Dating Goodbye fame), and Doug Wilson's Christ Church in Moscow, ID. In all of these cases there were YEARS of abuse that was covered up and not reported to the authorities. Stankorb shows how complementarian theology and purity culture creates an atmosphere that is ripe for abuse. While some of these women did see some changes or at least got out of their toxic environments, this is not a happy ending kind of book. As a Christian it is gut wrenching to read about pastors and church leadership not only BE the abusers but also hide and cover up obvious abuse and pedophilia in the name of "forgiveness" and not making their church look bad to the public. I don't know what Bible they are reading but this is NOT in there. I kept thinking of Matthew 18:5-7 that says in part "If anyone causes one of these little ones - those who believe in me - to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea..." To me it's super obvious that the common denominator with all these situation is complementarian theology. The over-arching Church needs to do better.

While I think this is well researched book and very eye-opening I was expecting something more along the lines of She Said by Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey based on the description. I also think the book could have been divided a little better - more clearly by the denomination/church. And while I did appreciate the author's personal story as it did relate to the book and her own faith struggles, I felt that it sometimes detracted from the overall story as she did not experience faith/church abuse. Overall, it was a good book but still a hard read.

Some quotes I liked:

"Over the years as [Christa] Brown refused to back down [on asking the SBC to create a database of known abusers], she became a common recipient of SBC leaders' ire. Otherwise buttery-voiced pastors dripped venom toward her. Former SBC president Paige Patterson called SNAP [Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests] advocates (Brown was by then SNAP's Baptist director) slanderers, and thus, 'evil doers' and as 'reprehensible as sex criminals.'" (p. 78)

"The Washington Post called [Rachel] Held Evans 'the most polarizing woman in evangelicalism.' In reality, Held Evans became a voice for moderation within a religious movement sliding rapidly toward deeper extremes." (p. 82)

"In hindsight, the relative youth of the leadership team at Covenant Life, aside from Mahaney, did strike Pam as unusual. Most of the church leaders seemed to be in their twenties. They might have 'real strong gifting,' but a pastor who has never had children, giving advice to parents with teens, could mean a disconnect. 'Telling everybody what to do, without knowledge, without real experience, or education,' she elaborated. If pastors did have degrees at all, they weren't in theology." (p. 104)

"Although Mahaney took a leave of absence in summer 2011 to examine his character flaws - pride, unentreatability, deceit, and hypocrisy - by spring 2012, he'd returned and SGM moved its headquarters from Maryland to Louisville, Kentucky, close to Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and its Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW; which Mahaney joined in 2000, later serving as vice chairman)...In 2012, Covenant Life Church voted with a 93 percent majority to break away from SGM. By spring 2013, Mahaney had stepped down as president of SGM. Nearly twenty churches left the network." (p. 117-18)

"There was another, ample reason for purity culture's reconsideration. In 2016, many evangelical leaders who had taught young girls they were tempting boys into sin with front-hugs or premarital kissing appeared to develop politically motivated moral amnesia. With the promise of a president who would nominate Supreme Court justices to help overturn Roe v. Wade and other major culture war precedents, major evangelical leaders fell in line with thrice-married socialite Donald Trump." (p. 172-73)



What an Owl Knows: the new science of the world's most enigmatic birds by Jennifer Ackerman

I've always been fascinated by owls and so I was interested when I saw this book. Then I realized I had already read one of Ackerman's previous books, The Bird Way. Even though I remembered that her previous book had been pretty science-heavy, I was still interested enough in owls to check this one out. It was very interesting, but also very science-heavy and not always the easiest read. There are nine chapters that focus on different aspects of owls from how they mate and nest, raising owlets, their vocalizations, all the way to how owls are seen in different cultures (as a harbinger of death or revered as wise). I did learn a lot and I realize now just how rare and special the times I've actually seen owls in person are as owls are VERY elusive even to skilled scientists who exclusively study owls. I did really like that there were lots of pictures, both in black & white and also a section in the middle of color photos. Overall, it was an interesting book but not a quick read.

Some quotes I liked:

"It's easy to love a living tree, with its lush foliage and canopy of greenery. But snags are like skeletons. They've lost their leaves, sloughed their skin. Their bones are furrowed with insect tracks, riddled with holes, rotted at the core, and their tops are stunted and snaggled. But what life they support! More than a hundred species of birds, mammals, reptiles, and amphibians use snags for nesting, roosting, denning, and feeding, including these magnificent owls." (p. 138)

"Mott describes a nesting hollow in a tree that had been used for more than ten years by a pair of Powerful Owls. Fires ripped through the area and burned the tree from the inside out. After the fire, the pair sat in an adjacent tree. 'Large forest owls make a really obvious grieving noise when they've lost a chick,' she says. 'And they did the same thing for this tree hollow. It was quite heart-wrenching.'" (p. 142)

"In the United Kingdom, it's legal to buy a pet owl if the bird is captive bred. You don't need a license or any credentials. Moreover, owls bred in captivity can be sold without any regulation, and it's a lucrative trade. A Snowy Owl can bring in about £250. In the wake of Harry Potter, so many people bought pet owls in the UK, only to dump them after realizing the cost and complexity of caring for them, that a special animal sanctuary opened to adopt the unwanted birds." (p. 212)

[On caring for injured owls] "They restore essential flight feathers on the wing and tail through 'imping,' a remarkable technique in use since the thirteenth century in birds used for falconry. 'We clip the damaged feather near the base, leaving a hollow keratin sheath,' explains Pierce. A matching feather molted from a donor bird is cut to length and inserted into the sheath with a tiny keratin dowel and then superglued to keep it in place. 'If all goes according to plan,' she says, 'the imped feather serves as a good replacement for the original feather until the bird molts it naturally, dropping the imped feather and growing a new one.'" (p. 216-17)

"Owls can also offer surprising glimpses into the ecological past. It's an idea raised in Anthony Doerr's beautiful novel Cloud Cuckoo Land. In the sanitized virtual world he has been hired to create, the book's main character surreptitiously undermines the system by slipping in the truth in the form of little owls, 'owl graffiti, an owl-shaped drinking fountain, a bicyclist in a tuxedo with an owl mask,' writes Doerr. 'Find one, touch it, and you peel back the sanitized, polished imagery to reveal the truth beneath' - the calamities, drought, famine, and suffering of the real past. There is a deep hunch here. Owls may be mirrors of our souls, but they're also windows into what life was like long ago." (p. 267-68) [I had forgotten about that part of Cloud Cuckoo Land and how much owls played in that storyline.]



This Country: searching for home in (very) rural America by Navied Mahdavian

Navied Mahdavian and his wife Emelie were living in the San Francisco Bay Area when they visit rural Idaho and decide to buy some land there. Hoping that by living off the grid they can afford to actually work on their passions instead of jobs to pay the ever higher bills in the Bay Area. Navied is Iranian-American and so stands out even more in rural Idaho. They both seem shocked by the racism and extremely conservative political views of their neighbors. While they do make some friends and try to make it work in Idaho, once their daughter is born they decide that they don't want that ultra-conservative rural culture to be what she grows up around. So they move to Salt Lake City, Utah - no ultra-conservatism there I'm sure... This was a quick read and there were some interesting parts to their story, but I didn't love it. It felt like this was a VERY quick overview of their time there and could have been better or at least had some of the parts more fleshed out. Overall, I wouldn't recommend this one.





Emotional Labor: the invisible work shaping our lives and how to claim our power by Rose Hackman

Emotional labor is often viewed as a problem of privileged white women, but it literally affects every person on the planet - just some more than others. And often it is women who perform the majority of emotional labor. Rose Hackman does a great job of exploring the issue of emotional labor from several points of view. I personally mostly think of it as issues within a marriage or household, but she highlights aspects from service jobs, caregiving (hospital workers, childcare, and elderly care), racial identity, violence against women, how it affects men, and even how prison creates more emotional labor for the family (and often women) on the outside. I was really impressed with how broad her scope was in the book. It's frustrating to read how many people still say things like "Oh, women are just better at _____, that's why they do it." I do think Hackman gives some good suggestions and ideas for recognizing the importance of emotional labor and how to make it more equal in a variety of circumstances. I do think some of the chapters were a little long and repetitive, hence the 3 star rating. But, a good overview of all the myriad ways that emotional labor impacts us all.

Some quotes I liked:

"One of the cleverest tricks of patriarchy is that it transforms all work deemed feminine into fixed, subliminal expressions of femininity - however much work involves active time, effort, and skill. The best way to maintain a system in which women work for little to nothing, and for the benefit of others, especially men, is to convince society that they are not working at all." (p. 8)

"The point with emotional labor is not that it inherently points to an injustice. When seen, when valued or appreciated, or when part of an exchange, a mutuality, an ecosystem where love is power - then it needn't be exploitative. Quite the contrary: doing emotional labor for people who are doing it for you is the goal, not the problem." (p. 66)

"When women are told to 'smile' by a stranger on the street, they are being reminded of this through harassment. When women going about their business are accused of having a 'resting bitch face,' they are being reminded of their expected constant enthusiastic performance for the benefit of the world. A man not smiling while going about a task is never told he has a 'resting dick face.' He's likely treated as busy and important, if his expression is noted at all." (p. 87)

"As opportunities to be in the public eye have hugely expanded for women over the last decades - as previous formal barriers to public life have lifted - so, too, has the volume and level of feedback audiences inflict on them. This is true whether audiences are parents at a swim lesson, friends and acquaintances on social media, or television viewers of a political debate...This reality, instead of receding with women's legal progress, has only intensified. Today, women are more scrutinized, and more set up for humiliation than ever." (p. 92-93)

"The threat of rape and assault has a paralyzing effect on our ability to live life to its fullest, our willingness to jump on a bike, take a walk, use public transportation, explore the world. It has a paralyzing effect on our freedom...This constant lookout is a form of emotional labor that conditions us to double, triple think, to be hesitant and impose limits on ourselves and on our lives. To be a strong, empowered woman does not mean no longer taking precautions; it means making painstaking decisions about freedom versus safety, saving versus safety, economic opportunity versus safety." (p. 114-15)

"Homicide stands as the fourth leading cause of death for girls and women one to nineteen years old, and the fifth leading cause of death for women twenty to forty-four. Unlike male victims of homicide, who are mostly killed by members of the same sex, 98 percent of killers of women are men." (p. 118)

"An extraordinarily grim academic article from 2009 looked at the marital outcomes of 515 patients diagnosed with life-threatening diseases, observing groups battling malignant primary brain tumors, other forms of cancer, and multiple sclerosis...When the patient was male, and supporting spouse female, divorce happened in 2.9 percent of cases. When the patient was female and the supporting spouse was male, divorce happened in 20.8 percent of cases - it was seven times more likely to happen...the disparity is too big to brush under the carpet. It shows a severe gender gap in terms of who steps up to provide care and emotional labor in the most essential times, and an incredible gender gap in terms of who benefits." (p. 188-89)



Deadly Declarations by Landis Wade

When 96-year-old Matthew Collins dies and a hastily written will is found that revokes his previous will and leaves his fortune to Sue Ellen Parker, the most hated resident at the Indie retirement community, Collins' friends Yeager and Harriet rope in new resident and recently retired lawyer Craig Travail to help solve this mystery. But they quickly uncover a new mystery involving the Meck Dec, or Mecklenburg Declaration of Independence, that may have led to their friend's demise and could also land the three of them in even more trouble. The characters in Deadly Declarations prove that there is more to retirement communities than card games and crafts - sex, lies, secret relationships, local historical mysteries, courtroom drama, and more follow these characters throughout the novel. Several twists and turns keep you guessing until the end.

While this is not the type of book I normally read - 1) Landis Wade is a local author and has participated in library book club discussions of his book and has done several other program about writing for the library and 2) this is the book chosen by a community for their community read program and they've asked me to come speak at their event. I figured the least I could do is read the book and participate in the whole event.

Wade is a good writer. While I didn't love every aspect of the story and there were some pretty outlandish things thrown in, it was funny and well written enough to keep my attention. I loved the character of Craig Travail and how his story was told and expanded throughout the book. I did feel like a few parts were a little melodramatic and over the top - but again it kept my attention and even with some crazy things I wanted to see how everything played out in the end. Overall, it was good but not my personal cup of reading tea.












Tuesday, February 6, 2024

January 2024 Cookbook Reviews

 


Christmas Feasts and Treats by Donna Hay

I wasn't familiar with Donna Hay, but happened to see an ad for a new cookbook. My library system didn't have the new one but we had a couple of her previous ones so I decided to check them out. This is a slightly different holiday cookbook. It's divided into two main sections - feasts and treats. I like that in "feasts" section there are basic recipes for holiday main dishes like ham, turkey, etc. with several different ways to make those main dishes. Then in the "treats" section it's more recipes for cakes, breads, and cookies. I did feel like these recipes were a little more on the advanced side - not really for beginners. There are still lots of great color photographs and tips along the way and a few recipes I'd like to try.



Basics to Brilliance by Donna Hay

I wasn't familiar with Donna Hay, but happened to see an ad for a new cookbook. My library system didn't have the new one but we had a couple of her previous ones so I decided to check them out. Overall, this seems like a really good cookbook. The recipes are organized in a couple basic sections, then each section has a "basic" dish like fried chicken, or pork ribs, then a few recipes using that basic base. There were several recipes I'd like to try and lots of helpful photographs and tips. My only (small) complaint is that it's a BIG book and the recipes take up multiple pages. Also, the background of most pages is black/dark and the text is white and kind of small so it can be a little harder to read. But, I do like the way she organized the recipes and it looks like lots of good stuff to try.





January 2024 Reviews

 


Class: a memoir of motherhood, hunger, and higher education by Stephanie Land

I absolutely LOVED Maid, so I was excited to see that Land had a follow up book about her time juggling college and single motherhood. After reading this book I just don't like her. She would probably say it's because of the stereotypes/preconceived ideas of poor people. But another review put it perfectly - I had to remind myself that she was 35, not 21. She wasn't a teen mom when she had her first daughter - she was 28/29. So, it's not like she missed out on all the fun party times of your 20's and was making up for it now. It's like she just never grew up and was perpetually 21 in her mind and actions. The main things I had issues with:

1) She left her daughter with ANYONE. I kept waiting to find out she had been molested or something. I can imagine it's overwhelming and hard to figure out childcare, but I was shocked by just how randomly she would find someone to watch Emilia.
2) She was hooking up with a LOT of dudes and never using birth control. WTF?! You know how this happened the first time, right? Plus, beyond unplanned pregnancies there are STDs, AIDS, etc. I lost a lot of respect for her when she was using the rhythm method of birth control and not in a serious relationship. That method has a 1 in 4 chance of pregnancy. Again she was 35 when she got pregnant the second time - not a dumb teenager.
3) College was SO important to her, yet while she's going she's constantly worrying about whether this degree will actually help her find paid work. She somehow was both flippant and overly invested in her degree.
4) Deciding to keep the second unplanned pregnancy in her mid-30's and then being shocked when other people weren't supportive or happy for her. Maid and this book continue to highlight just how hard being a single mother is and yet somehow she thought adding another child (with NO father in the picture, even for child support) would somehow make things better?
5) She also purposely chose to not find out who the father was (it was only possibly 2 guys) so that this child wouldn't have an abusive parent like her older daughter does. Here's an idea - stop sleeping with shitty guys! I mean if you're just really into "the bad boy" at least use some reliable birth control! These poor kids.

I did feel bad because it was painfully obvious to me that she sought romantic relationships because her parents were pretty terrible and basically cut her off. It also felt a lot like adding the second kid would make her even more of a victim, yet it would also reinforce the stereotype of the "welfare mom" having more kids to get more benefits. I feel bad for her kids. I'm sure now after the success of Maid and the Netflix series on top of that, she is fine financially. But what if it hadn't? What is there was no Maid and she had $50,000 in student loans, was still working shitty jobs and now had 2 kids to take care of?

The one good thing is that she is a good writer and kept me engaged with reading the book. But after reading this I just didn't like her as a person anymore. Anyone can make mistakes or bad choices, but we all know some things have bigger consequences. Land does a great job of showing how to make all the worst decisions and yet it's somehow not her fault.



Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng (Books & Banter and Evening Edition book clubs)

In an undisclosed year in a future, dystopian America, PACT - The Preserving American Culture and Traditions Act shapes everyone's lives. Anyone viewed as "anti-American" and in particular anyone of Asian descent is immediately suspect. Bird is twelve years old and living with his father. Three years ago his mother, Margaret Miu, left them. A line from one of her poems became the rallying cry of anti-PACT protests. Bird quickly learned that everyone associated him with his mother even though he doesn't know where she is or why she left. One day he receives a postcard in the mail from her - no words, just a drawing. It triggers a memory that leads to him tracking her down and finding out what really happened when she left.

Celeste Ng is a very talented author. Each of her books is so different, yet all draw you into the character's world. The post-PACT world that she builds in Our Missing Hearts is terrifying because it doesn't seem like that much of a stretch from a possible reality. People lash out when they are afraid and want to find someone to pin their anger and fear on. COVID also highlighted just how far people are willing to go in the name of "the greater good." Historically children have been taken from parents as a means of control - and often it works for a long time until enough people are willing to stand up and stop things. We never learn from history either - atrocities against Indigenous people, slavery, the Holocaust, Japanese internment camps, McCarthyism, etc. What happens to the few who choose to stand up to what they see as injustice? Can one person make a difference in a society that seems happy to turn a blind eye? These are all issues that Ng explores brilliantly in Our Missing Hearts. I also LOVED that she made librarians the main part of the network of resistance in the book too.

Some quotes I liked:

"Did you know, their teacher explained the year before, that paper books are out of date the instant they're printed? The beginning of the year welcome talk. All of them sitting crisscross applesauce on the carpet at her feet. That's how fast the world changes. And our understanding of it, too. She snapped her fingers. We want to make sure you have the most current information. This way we can be sure nothing you use is outdated or inaccurate. You'll find everything you need right here online...So you banned all those books, Sadie said, and the teacher had blinked twice at her over her glasses. Oh no, sweetie, she said. People think that sometimes, but no. No one bans anything. Haven't you ever heard of the Bill of Rights?...Every school makes its own independent judgments, the teacher said. About which books are useful to their students and which books might expose them to dangerous ideas...It's our job as teachers, she said, her voice soft but firm...To decide what's worth keeping and what isn't." (p. 31-32)

"PACT, its proponents insisted, would strengthen and unify the nation. Left unsaid was that unity required a common enemy. One box in which to collect all their anger; one straw man to wear the hats of everything they feared." (p. 186)

"All over the country, a scattered network of librarians would note this information, collating it with the Rolodex in their minds, cross-referencing it with the re-placed children they might have learned about. Some kept a running written list, but most, wary, simply trusted to memory. An imperfect system, but the brain of a librarian was a capacious place...Librarians, of all people, understood the value of knowing, even if that information could not yet be used." (p. 236)




Exit Interview: the life and death of my ambitious career by Kristi Coulter

In 2006 at the age of thirty-five, Kristi Coulter left her comfortable yet boring job for a middle management job at Amazon. While Coulter was ambitious and wanted to be challenged in her job, she could have never foreseen just how challenging working at Amazon would be in a variety of ways. Coulter stayed at Amazon for 11 years and by the time she finally did quit, only 2% of employees had been there as long as she had. While we've all likely read horror stories about working at Amazon I think most of what I've read has to do with the warehouse workers and delivery drivers. But, we've all also likely read stories about how crazy working for huge corporations like Amazon/Facebook/Google/etc. can be too with tons of hours and cutthroat ethics. Coulter's experience is different in that when she started working at Amazon they were already well-known, not just starting out. But, they were also on the verge of the marketplace domination that they have now and she was a part of many of the new "non-book/media" things they were starting to sell. Her experience is also unique in that she is a woman in middle management who desperately wanted to advance and yet never seemed to meet the ever-changing requirements. She also quickly noticed that there were very few women on her level and even fewer above her. While she didn't experience the kind of bro/fraternity culture/sexual harassment many employees of silicon valley or other start-ups did, she did experience a serious glass ceiling and obvious (to her and other women) gender discrimination. She was once called "stupid" in a meeting with a peer-level manager and was also told by her superior at the time that in order to move up to the next level of management she would need to "change the world" - no other direction. But that also could give plausible explainability for never promoting her too.

While reading the book I wondered why she did stay as long as she did. I was also surprised by how little she seemed to tell her husband about the discrimination and craziness - I think she knew he would want her to quit. It's not worth fighting for recognition in an organization that doesn't see you a full person. When she finally does leave it's after a New York Times article is published that highlights just how poorly women are treated as Amazon employees and Jeff Bezo's reaction to the article, basically blowing it off. I'm sure nothing has changed at Amazon because Amazon's sole purpose is to make Jeff Bezos shit-tons of money. And for everyone who proclaims to hate Amazon, probably most of those people are still buying stuff from them because it's just so easy. I really like Coulter's memoir. While I personally can't relate to being so ambitious that I would put up with all the stuff she did, she did an excellent job of giving us an inside peek of what it was like to be a female manager at Amazon between 2006 and 2017.

Some quotes I liked:

"It's starting to bug me how much John downplays his career...Maybe I'm being sucked into power-couple fantasies, or maybe there's just something about his refusal to cop to being successful that makes me feel alone in this new life. Maybe it's the innate male confidence that eats at me. He doesn't need to puff himself up, because no one's invested in tearing him down." (p. 169-170)

"2013: At performance review time, I notice that a man who works for me and is one level down in the organization makes forty thousand dollars a year more than I do...I ask my HR rep if she knows what's up. 'There are just so many factors that go into compensation,' she says. 'It's hard to say.' She suggest I contact the comp team directly. 'This is a really busy time of year for them, though.' I wait until the review cycle wraps up and then I email them but I never get a response. The man is a poor fit for his job and impervious to my coaching and every time I see him I think about those forty thousand dollars." (p. 181-182)

"This is the moment it finally truly lands that I will never outrun my gender. Of course on some level I've known that for years, but never so starkly. I will never overcome the belief that the presence of women means a slower, softer, weaker Amazon. There is nothing I can do to make these men any smarter or less blind, because they're the norm and I'm a deviation." (p. 290)



Stained Glass Ceilings: how evangelicals do gender and practice power by Lisa Weaver Swartz

Stained Glass Ceilings is an academic study comparing and contrasting how gender is theologically taught and practiced at two prominent seminaries. Swartz interviews students and professors at both Southern Seminary (a Southern Baptist denomination based seminary) and Asbury Theological Seminary (a Wesleyan, non-denominational seminary). The whole book is only 4 chapters - how gender is theologically taught at both seminaries and then how gender plays out in practice at both seminaries. Her basic finding is pretty sad to me - Southern is a complementarian theology so they have VERY prescribed roles for both men and women particularly when it comes to ministry/church leadership. Asbury is an egalitarian theology so they are open to women being called to full time ministry and/or church leadership - yet it doesn't play out that way in real life. Asbury focuses on gender-blindness and seems to think that since they support women in ministry/church leadership that that is the end of the discussion/issue. When in reality women's experiences DO matter because if you never hear about the problems women have in ministry you can't help correct them. By seeing it as a non-issue you actually invalidate any issues that someone does have - this can obviously apply to other issues beyond gender as well. It was also shocking to me how many of the Asbury students were vehemently anti-feminist - that totally didn't make sense for an egalitarian focused seminary. It was just sad for me to see that the women's experience as Asbury wasn't better. Swartz actually says in her introduction that while writing this book she "...often recalled Mark Noll's words in the opening paragraph of The Scandal of the Evangelical Mind: 'This book is an epistle from a wounded lover' (1995). This book is, likewise, a work of both critical scholarship and Christian lament." (p. 15-16). While it was an interesting book, it was not an easy read and was very scholarly. Would I have still bought it if I knew this on the front end? Probably, but it was not a book you could easily pick up and read a few pages then put down. But, for women in the Church it's still an important read.

Some quotes I liked:

"Two decades after the Conservative Resurgence, gender egalitarianism remains a symbolic foe. It is also a conveniently tangible one. The conservative warriors of the resurgence battled over far more than gender, but an enemy as nebulous as 'liberalism' can be difficult to combat. It is much easier to attack the visible practice of allowing women in the pulpits." (p. 41)

[On the topic of Southern Seminary President Al Mohler speaking at Brigham Young University, a Mormon college] "Later, when I interviewed Mohler in his office, he explained the visit to me, reiterating, '[Mormons] are way beyond our confession. We do not recognize them as Christian, but on issues of family structure and many deep moral convictions there's commonality there.'...[then asked about commonality with egalitarian Christians] 'I think those relationships are going to be quite strained, more so than even in the past as we go into the future.' 'Why is that?' I pressed. 'Because,' he answered, 'I think the hermeneutic involved in egalitarianism is going to have a great deal of difficulty withstanding some of the other cultural pressures.' For Mohler, fears that an egalitarian reading of the Bible would lead to an interpretive slippery slope seem to have stymied alliance with egalitarian Christians, even other evangelicals." (p. 42) [Mind-blowing to me that a complementarian would choose to side with Mormons than other egalitarian Christians]

"Renee, one of the few single women enrolled in Southern's MDiv program, confessed to me that she had struggled with the complementarian framework for much of her life: 'I always thought that something was wrong with my personality, because I'm very talkative, very outgoing. I'm very opinionated and I have all these [ideas]...I want to lead things. So how do I do that in a biblical sense? I always felt like something was wrong with me, like God had created me right and I just messed it up.'" (p. 82)

"Dan did, however, acknowledge the context: 'I know traditionally it's been males who have dominated.' He nevertheless failed to engage the enduring legacy this tradition left in its wake. Instead, he worried about the possibility of what he called 'reverse domination' of women over men. Others agreed. Struggles to gain power have no place in a unified Church." (p. 103)

"Even the most enthusiastic boosters of genderblind equality, however, often recognized a problem. Some of the same administrators who insisted that Asbury was free from sexism also expressed bewilderment at how difficult it was to attract good women faculty members...They could not explain why men and women, equally called by God, might navigate uneven paths toward answering those calls." (p. 121)

"Clear policies and biblical teachings might support a woman's right to pursue church leadership, but she must also overcome cultural forces that normalize men's perspectives, leadership styles, and bodily mannerisms." (p. 136)