Thursday, June 30, 2016

June 2016 Reviews


I lead two book clubs at work and while we read LOTS of great books, every year there are always some that I slog through. Since both of my book clubs don't meet over the summer, the last few years I've read nothing but non-fiction for June and sometimes into July as well. Non-fiction is my favorite thing to read so it's a great way to start off the summer for me. Here is my start to my non-fiction summer reading!




Hammer Head by Nina MacLaughlin

Hammer Head by Nina MacLaughlin

After a decade of working as a newspaper journalist, Nina MacLaughlin is tired of sitting behind a computer screen - she wants to do something more physical. When she sees an ad on Craigslist looking for a carpenter's assistant and encouraging women to apply, she impulsively applies even though she has NO experience. She ends up getting the job and learning how to do all kinds of carpentry and other home renovation work. While the premise of the book sounded interesting, the actual story is kind of boring. She doesn't really talk much about her personal life or her relationship with Mary, the carpenter who hired her. I was also really curious about her money situation - she doesn't work for a few months in the winter and she never talks about how she plans for that, is she making more than at the newspaper?, etc. The last chapter is the best when she makes custom bookshelves for her Dad's new house and she can tell he's really impressed, but overall I didn't love it. Her writing style was kind of distant, almost like she's on the outside looking in.


Searching for Sunday by Rachel Held Evans

Searching for Sunday: Loving, Leaving, and Finding the Church by Rachel Held Evans

This book is AMAZING! If you ever felt like you didn't fit in at church, this is the book for you! Evans grew up in an evangelical church and met her husband at a Christian college where her father was a professor. But, in college she started having doubts about some of the theology and cultural mindsets she was seeing both in college and in the church she attended. It wasn't until Tennessee was trying to pass Amendment One that defined marriage as only between one man and one woman that Evans mentally checked out of church and soon after quit attending regularly. When she started her blog where she wrote about a lot of the issues she was struggling with, she became the topic of lots of church gossip and ended up officially leaving her church. But, with her blog she connected with a whole host of like-minded people who felt run off by traditional churches. She also never lost her faith in God - just her faith in church. This book shares her personal story about church and some of the many stories of people she's encountered through her blog and speaking engagements. While you may not agree with every word she writes, the bigger picture of this book and Christianity as a whole is that there is so much more to God than what is represented in churches. Yes, the Church is supposed to represent God here on earth, but we often do a really terrible job with that. I can guarantee that you will ALWAYS be disappointed somehow, some time with church, but you will NEVER be disappointed with God.

Here are some quotes I really liked:

"Death and resurrection. It's the impossibility around which every other impossibility of the Christian faith orbits. Baptism declares that God is in the business of bringing dead things back to life, so if you want in on God's business, you better prepare to follow God to all the rock-bottom, scorched-earth, dead-on-arrival corners of this world - including those in your own heart - because that's where God works, that's where God gardens." (p. 21)

"Imagine if every church became a place where everyone is safe, but no one is comfortable. Imagine if every church became a place where we told one another the truth. We might just create sanctuary." (p. 73)

"It was a strange way to start a ministry - turning water into wine. And what sort of sign is it anyway, ensuring that a simple wedding feast carry on? It may be tempting to dismiss the miracle and Cana as a mere magic trick, an example of Jesus flexing his messianic muscles before getting to the real work of restoring sight to the blind and helping the paralyzed off their mats. But this is only because we have such a hard time believing that God cares about our routine realities, that God's glory resides in the stuff of everyday life, just waiting to be seen." (p. 155)

"Today, some of us struggle to see the Spirit within the religious institution, often for good reason. But God is present both inside and outside the traditional church, working all sorts of everyday miracles to inspire and challenge us if only we pay attention." (p. 197)

"As Brene Brown puts it, 'I went to church thinking it would be like an epidural, that it would take the pain away...But church isn't like an epidural; it's like a midwife...I thought faith would say, 'I'll take away the pain and discomfort, but what it ended up saying was, 'I'll sit with you in it.'" (p. 209)

"Marriage, like a meal of bread and wine, is just one more ordinary, everyday circumstance God transforms into an avenue through which to enter our lives. We must be careful, then, of idolizing the institution of marriage on the one hand and discounting its kingdom-reflecting potential on the other. What makes a marriage holy isn't the degree to which the two partners reflect gender stereotypes, or stick to a list of rule and roles, or even reflect cultural norms and expectations, but the degree to which the love of Christ is present in one of the most challenging and rewarding commitments two people will ever make to one another." (p. 243)


Bastards by Mary Anna King

Bastards by Mary Anna King

Mary was the second of seven children born to her parents in Camden, New Jersey. She and her older brother Jacob watched as each of their sisters were adopted. Mary always vowed that someday she would find all her missing sisters. When she was 7 Mary and her brother Jacob went to live with their grandparents in Oklahoma who were already raising Rebecca, number 3 in the line of siblings. Things were VERY different in Oklahoma and after a few years Jacob was sent back to live with their father in New Jersey. When Mary was in college her sisters who had been adopted out started reaching out to their family to reconnect. While all the siblings wanted to reconnect, it was also traumatic to re-live all the chaos and trauma from their early lives. Despite LOTS of dysfunction, all the siblings establish a relationship with each other and their birth parents. King shows that family is often dysfunctional and messy, but there will always be a bond between siblings.


Infamy by Richard Reeves

Infamy: the Shocking Story of the Japanese American Internment in World War II by Richard Reeves

When the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor on December 7, 1941 President Franklin D. Roosevelt declared it "...a date that will live in infamy." Unfortunately, shortly after that surprise bombing the United States embarked on another infamous act - the internment of all Japanese-Americans for the duration of WWII. Most of those interned were American citizens, which undeniably went against the Constitution and their rights as citizens. Almost all of those interned lost everything - all their possessions, homes, land or businesses, and savings. Despite this, many of the young men interned were desperate to enlist in the military to prove that they were Americans and willing to fight for their country. Many Japanese-American soldiers died for their country and many more worked as interpreters and spies that greatly helped the US in WWII. While this book is fascinating, it was also a very hard read. To read of the wide-spread racism and hatred of political leaders, media, and average citizens was hard to stomach - including a racist cartoon drawn by none other than Dr. Seuss (p. 21)! Many people think of Hitler and the Jewish concentration camps when you think of WWII, but the US Japanese internment camps, while not designed to kill people, was almost equally horrific. I didn't realize until reading this book that the Civil Liberties Act of 1988 included a formal apology for the internment and gave each internment survivor $20,000. While, hard to read at times, this is a must-read simply so that more people are aware of this blight on US history and so we don't repeat the mistakes of our past again.

Some quotes I liked:

When the order for internment was issued, scavengers came out of the woodwork hoping to capitalize on the Japanese-American's misfortune. "As she was packing to leave...[she] was harassed by scavengers wanting to buy her best dishes, worth about $200. One by one, she took the dishes out of their velvet jackets and smashed them at the men's feet." (p. 59)

"A few white neighbors promised to look after homes and farms - some kept the promises, some did not. In Sacramento, a state agricultural inspector named Bob Fletcher agreed to take over the maintenance of three Japanese farms with ninety acres of vineyards. He paid the mortgages and taxes in exchange for 50 percent of the profits. When the war ended, the Nitto, Okamoto, and Tsukamoto families returned; their land and their profits waiting for them. The same kind of thing happened in Fresno, where a prosperous local farmer,...Hubert 'Dutch' Leonard,...agreed to manage a Japanese farm and turned over $20,000 in profits after the war. But such stories were rare." (p. 76)

"The government of Canada...relocated 23,000 persons of Japanese ancestry after declaring war on Japan. They were moved to camps and abandoned mining towns in the interior of the country; three-quarters of those interned were Canadian citizens...The evacuees' property was confiscated and auctioned off to help pay for the evacuation and internment." (p. 93)

"After the war, Major General Charles Willoughby, General MacArthur's chief of intelligence, said of the work of the [Japanese-American] linguists, 'Never before in history did an army know so much concerning its enemy prior to actual engagement, as the American army during the Pacific campaign. Those interpreters and translators saved over a million lives and two years.'" (p. 150-151)

"Edison Uno, a Nisei who was eighteen years old when he was released from detention after the war ended, devoted the rest of his life as a human rights activist trying to tell the story of the camps and organize Japanese Americans to demand government apologies and financial redress. Uno said of the silence, 'We were like the victims of rape. We felt shamed. We could not bear to speak of the assault.' That attitude began to change in the 1960s when Sansei, the third generation, many inspired by the black civil rights movement and growing anti-Vietnam War protests, began questioning their parents and grandparents about the camp years." (p. 273)

"One of the results of the new activism was the creation by Congress in 1980 of the Commission on Wartime Relocation and Internment of Civilians...Perhaps the most significant sentences of the report were: 'In sum, Executive Order 9066 was not justified by military necessity, and the decisions that followed from it - exclusion, detention, the ending of detention, and the ending of exclusion - were not founded on military considerations. The broad historical causes that shaped these decisions were race prejudice, war hysteria, and a failure of political leadership.'" (p. 276)


Flash by Rachel Anne Ridge

Flash: the Homeless Donkey Who Taught Me About Life, Faith, and Second Chances by Rachel Anne Ridge

Rachel Ridge was at the end of her rope. Her husband Tom had recently lost his job, so he joined Rachel in her mural business - it was a success until the 2009 economic downturn. They were struggling to find enough work to stay afloat with 2 teenagers and 1 daughter about to get married. One day after a long, hard day on a job that wasn't going to pay enough, Rachel and Tom come home to find a donkey in their driveway. They manage to get him into their pasture and figure they'll find his owner the next day - no one ever claims him and they end up keeping him and naming him Flash. While it didn't seem like the best idea to add another expense to their household, the whole family quickly falls in love with Flash. And soon Rachel is starting to realize that Flash is helping her see things in a new light - she is able to find new life lessons that help her take her own life in new directions. Flash becomes a catalyst for a happier life and a deeper faith. Each chapter ends with a life lesson that Flash helped Rachel realize. If you're an animal lover, this is a great story of how one lost donkey changed the Ridge family for the better.


A Good Place to Hide by Peter   Grose

A Good Place to Hide: How One French Village Saved Thousands of Lives During World War II by Peter Grose

The isolated village of Le Chambon in the Loire Valley of central France became a haven for Jews and other wanted people during World War II. Because the area was isolated and somewhat hard to get to, but also because there weren't large industries or natural resources there, it wasn't an early target of the Germans. A few people who were in the right place at the right time made history by refusing to bow to German occupation and laws that went against their personal and moral beliefs. Two pastors, André Trocmé and Édouard Theis, and a school headmaster, Roger Darcissac, were three community leaders who helped facilitate their community as a haven for Jews and other targeted people. There were also a few talented forgers who helped create fake paperwork to get people out of France and into safer areas. But, no one person could do what this community did together - virtually everyone in the community helped hide people, shared resources, and found ways to band together against the evil of Nazi Germany. The Loire Valley also became a hotbed of Resistance activity because it was isolated and not targeted for occupation by the Germans. This is a fascinating book that looks at how one community came together to help strangers. This was mostly accomplished because no one asked questions - they helped anyone who needed help. But, because no one actually asked if the people they were hiding were Jewish, the number helped is hard to nail down. Most accounts say between 2000-5000 people were hidden and/or given forged papers and roughly 3500 were most likely Jewish. My only (small) complaint about this book was that there was SO MUCH information and so many names to keep up with that it was sometimes hard to remember who was doing what - especially since many of the people were using fake names too. But, overall this was a great book about how people following their conscience made a difference and saved thousands of lives during one of the worst times in world history.

Some quotes I really liked:

André Trocmé and Édouard Theis issued a joint statement to their congregations that read in part, "The duty of Christians is to resist violence directed at our consciences with the weapons of the spirit. We appeal to all our brothers in Christ to refuse to agree with or cooperate in violence, especially in the coming days when that violence is directed against the English people. To love, to forgive, to show kindness to our enemies, that is our duty. But we must do our duty without conceding defeat, without servility, without cowardice. We will resist when our enemies demand that we act in ways that go against the teachings of the Gospel. We will resist without fear, without pride, and without hatred..." (p. 42) [The whole statement is at the end of the book and is definitely worth reading in its entirety]

"Magda Trocmé (pastor André's wife) went on the rounds of the hotels to ask some of the more prosperous Jews if they would contribute to the support of their co-religionists, particularly those from outside France. She was told: 'These foreigners that you bring to Le Chambon will be the ruin of us. We French Jews are not going to get mixed up with them.'" (p. 88)

On February 13, 1943 André Trocmé, Édouard Theis, and Roger Darcissac were arrested, but not charged with any offense and were transferred to Camp de Saint-Paul d'Eyjeaux, an internment camp for 'undesirables.' On March 15 the three men were told they needed to sign some paperwork and would be released. "When the three men read the paper to be signed, they found it contained a clause requiring them to swear allegiance to the government of Marshal Pétain [a puppet French government established by the Germans before total occupation] and to undertake to obey its orders. As school headmaster, Roger Darcissac had no choice. He was a public servant paid by the government; if he didn't sign, he would lose his job and be unable to support his family. So, he signed, and left on the five o'clock train. However, the two pastors refused...To the commandant's astonishment, they returned to their prison hut, where their fellow inmates couldn't believe what they were hearing...The next morning, he summoned the two men again. He had new orders. They could leave without signing the paper. They were free...A few days later, all the prisoners in the camp - about five hundred men - were packed onto trains and deported to Poland and Silesia. There is no record of any of them being heard from again." (p. 142-3)

"It would be nice to report that the world learned lessons from World War II, that the universal relief at the end of the fighting and the defeat of Nazism led the world to say 'never again,' and mean it. Yet among leaders all over the world today there are strutting buffoons who steal and cheat and lie and torture, and get away with it. The mighty still oppress the weak. There are millions of blameless people denied dignity, security and basic human rights in Syria, in Zimbabwe, in Palestine, in North Korea, in far too many countries and regions around the globe." (p. 278)


Unashamed by Lecrae Moore

Unashamed by Lecrae

I wasn't familiar with Lecrae until a few years ago when my husband stumbled across his music. We both love music and unfortunately it can be hard to find really unique, creative Christian music artists. But, Lecrae most definitely is unique and creative. His memoir explores his rough childhood and youth - he grew up with a lot of abuse and violence. He became a Christian when he was in college, but it took awhile for him to really get serious about his faith. What I love the most about this book is how honest and raw he is - about how hard his childhood was and the things that he struggled with after becoming a Christian. I really love that he doesn't define himself as a "Christian rapper" - he is a rapper who happens to be a Christian so of course that will show up in his music, but he doesn't limit his music to "Christian" or "secular." Whether you're a fan of his music or not, he definitely has a story worth reading.

Some quotes I really liked:

"Being an outspoken Christian in the music industry means always feeling out of place. It's like whatever you have accomplished is less credible because of your faith. You're in the circle, but you're not really in the circle. You fit it, but you don't really fit in. When you're standing next to people or sitting beside people, it's as if you're not really there. This is one of the reasons I don't fully embrace the 'Christian rapper' label. It isn't that I'm ashamed of being a Christian. I'm not...But labeling the music that way creates hurdles and is loaded down with baggage. Plus, it just isn't a true expression of the music I'm making. I try to produce music that is life-giving and inspires people to hope, but it isn't just for the super-religious. I want to address themes that people who aren't Christians can appreciate." (p. 6-7)

"Or when we find culture alluring, but are uncomfortable with really engaging with it, we can copy culture. This is the approach that produces Christian films and Christian schools and Christian T-shirts and any other 'Christian' version of something - yes, that includes Christian music. None of these approaches are sufficient, [Andy] Crouch says. The only way to truly transform culture is to create culture." (p. 157)

"This has changed the way I do music. There is no such thing as Christian rap and secular rap. Only people can becomes Christians. Music can't accept Jesus into its heart. So I am not trying to make Christian music or secular music. I'm just making music. Hip-hop, like all music, is a good thing. I could use it for evil by filling it with violence and misogyny and profanity. Or I can use it to glorify God. Every song I write doesn't have to have the Gospel spelled out or quote Scripture so that people will know I love Jesus. My goal is just to use my gifts to produce great art that tells the truth about the world." (p. 193)


Evicted by Matthew Desmond

Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City by Matthew Desmond

This is a heart-breaking book about the effects of eviction on families living in poverty. Matthew Desmond follows a few people living in some of the poorest areas of Milwaukee, Wisconsin - some living in the "ghetto" on the North side of the city and some living in one of the worst trailer parks on the South side of Milwaukee. All of the people he follows made their fair share of poor choices, but overall they are struggling daily to try and make ends meet to support themselves and their families. For anyone living in poverty one unexpected emergency or lost job means the difference between making ends meet or possibly being evicted. Once evicted it's incredibly hard to get another lease and often housing in the poorest, most violent areas of town are not much, if any, cheaper than in nicer parts of town. "Public housing" is incredibly hard to come by and often evictions prevent someone from every qualifying for subsidized housing again. Desmond also found that having children makes someone even more likely to be evicted at some point.

I am a landlord, although it's not my full-time job, so I understand that landlords aren't running charities and when they don't get their rent, they still have to pay the mortgage on their rental property somehow. But, I could not in any way relate to the two landlords featured in this book. While I'm not targeting lower-income renters, they were just so heartless and had NO sympathy for their tenants - many of whom lived in appalling conditions. One of the landlords, Sherrena, had one of her buildings catch fire. In that fire one of her tenants had a child die - both tenants lost EVERYTHING they had, and her first question to the fire marshal was "Do I have to give them their rent back?" since the first was just after the first of the month - the answer was no. I just couldn't relate to them at all and I have no idea how they lived with themselves. Both Sherrena and Tobin (the trailer park owner) were slumlords in my opinion. 

This was definitely an eye-opening book. While there is no easy answer to the issue of affordable housing for lower-income families, there have got to be better ways than what this book exposes. 

Here are some quotes I really liked:

"Sherrena had bought a home in 1999, when prices were low. Riding the housing boom a few years later, she refinanced and pulled out $21,000 in equity. Six months later, she refinanced again, this time pulling $12,000. She used the cash to buy her first rental property: a two-unit duplex in the inner city, where housing was cheapest...Four years later, she owned thirty-six units, all in the inner city, and took to carrying a pair of cell phones with backup batteries, reading Forbes, renting office space, and accepting appointments from nine a.m. to nine p.m. Quentin [her husband] quit his job and started working as Sherrena's property manager and buying buildings of his own. Sherrena started a credit-repair business and an investment business. She purchased two fifteen-passenger vans and started Prisoner Connections LLC, which for $25 to $50 a seat transported girlfriends and mothers and children to visit their incarcerated loved ones upstate. Sherrena had found her calling: inner-city entrepreneur." (p. 12-13)

"Landlords were allowed to rent units with property code violations, and even units that did not meet 'basic habitability requirements,' as long as they were up front about the problems." (p. 73)

"Tenants able to pay their rent in full each month could take advantage of legal protections designed to keep their housing safe and decent. Not only could they summon a building inspector without fear of eviction, but they also had the right to withhold rent until certain repairs were made. But when tenants fell behind, these protections dissolved. Tenants in arrears were barred from withholding or escrowing rent; and they tempted eviction if they filed a report with a building inspector. It was not that low-income renters didn't know their rights. They just knew those rights would cost them." (p. 75)

"Some landlords neglected to screen tenants for the same reason payday lenders offered unsecured, high-interest loans to families with unpaid debt or lousy credit; for the same reason that the subprime industry gave mortgages to people who could not afford them; for the same reason Rent-a-Center allowed you to take home a new Hisense air conditioner or Klaussner 'Lazarus' reclining sofa without running a credit check. There was a business model at the bottom of every market." (p. 90)

"...Or the absentee landlord who failed to screen his tenants? Didn't he play a role in creating the drug house? The police and courts increasingly answer yes. It was in this context that the nuisance property ordinance was born, allowing police departments to penalize landlords for the behavior of their tenants. Most properties were designated 'nuisances' because an excessive number of 911 calls were made within a certain timeframe. In Milwaukee, the threshold was three or more calls within a thirty-day period...In the vast majority of cases (83 percent), landlords who received a nuisance citation for domestic violence responded by either evicting the tenants or by threatening to evict them for future police calls. Sometimes, this meant evicting a couple, but most of the time landlords evicted women abused by men who did not live with them...The year the police called Sherrena, Wisconsin saw more than one victim per week murdered by a current or former romantic partner or relative. After the numbers were released, Milwaukee's chief of police appeared on the local news and puzzled over the fact that many victims had never contacted the police for help. A nightly news reporter summed up the chief's views: 'He believes that if police were contacted more often, that victims would have the tools to prevent fatal situations from occurring in the future.' What the chief failed to realize, or failed to reveal, was that his department's own rules presented battered women with a devil's bargain: keep quiet and face abuse or call the police and face eviction." (p. 190-192)

"Residential stability begets a kind of psychological stability, which allows people to invest in their homes and social relationships. It begets school stability, which increases the chances that children will excel and graduate. And it begets community stability, which encourages neighbors to form strong bonds and take care of their block. But poor families enjoy little of that because they are evicted at such high rates." (p. 296)

"There are losers and winners. There are losers because their are winners. 'Every condition exists,' Martin Luther King, Jr. once wrote, 'simply because someone profits by its existence. This economic exploitation is crystallized in the slum.'" (p. 305)

"I am frequently asked how I 'handled' this research, by which people mean: How did seeing this level of poverty and suffering affect you, personally?...The honest answer is that the work was heartbreaking and left me depressed for years." (p. 328)

"There are costs to abandoning the first person. In the context of this study, it meant disguising when I intervened in nontrivial ways. There are two such instances in this book. When a 'friend' rented Arleen a U-Haul truck to move from Thirteenth Street and when Vanetta borrowed money from a 'friend' to buy a stove and refrigerator in anticipation of a visit from Child Protective Services, that was me...Scott still sends my eldest son a birthday card with a ten-dollar bill tucked inside, just like he did when he was homeless." (p. 335-6)





Thursday, June 2, 2016

May 2016 Cookbooks

Dinner Made Simple by Real Simple

Dinner Made Simple: 35 Everyday Ingredients, 350 Easy Recipes by Real Simple

I love Real Simple magazine and they always have great recipes. This collection is a little different in that the recipes are divided up by 35 staple ingredients with a few recipes that center around that ingredient. It was great because if you didn't like an ingredient or can't eat it (I can't eat most seafood) you could just skip that chapter. All the recipes look pretty straightforward and easy to make. There are definitely quite a few I'd like to try! Another great cookbook from Real Simple.


Better Homes and Gardens Jams and Jellies by Better Homes and Gardens

Better Homes & Gardens Jams and Jellies by Better Homes & Gardens

This is a solid book about canning jams, jellies, and spreads. I really like the introduction pages where they explain what kitchen tools/equipment you'll need, info about jars, tips for processing fruit and veggies for canning, and the difference between types of spreads (what is jelly, jam, compote, etc.). Then it jumps into the recipes. There were a few I'd like to try and lots of good gift ideas! As with any book of canning recipes, I would HIGHLY recommend taking an in-person canning class before attempting to home can. It's VERY easy, but you want to make sure you're doing it right and have someone who can answer questions for you. But, overall this looks like a good canning cookbook.


Barbecue by John Shelton Reed

Barbecue: a Savor the South Cookbook by John Shelton Reed

I love these Savor the South cookbooks! This one does not disappoint either. John Reed gives a good introduction to barbecue and how it varies from region to region in the South. I really like that he explains that the recipes in this book will be for "classic" barbecue and that since this is such a treasured tradition this is not the book for experimenting with recipes. There are definitely a few recipes I'd like to try. I would recommend this one for any fans of Southern cooking and barbecue in particular.

May 2016 Reviews

Slice Harvester by Colin Atrophy Hagendorf

Slice Harvester: a Memoir in Pizza by Colin Atrophy Hagendorf

The review I read of this sold it like Colin Hagendorf was able to get through his drug and alcohol addiction by starting the Slice Harvester blog/zine and eating a piece of pizza at every pizza place in New York City. But, he only started to turn his life around in the last 2 chapters. The rest of the book was him eating pizza while being constantly hungover from his insane drinking. His life was such a disaster that it made the book pretty depressing and sad. The pizza seemed like an afterthought in the book with page after page of how f*@ked up his life was. I also really wonder about his girlfriend who met him right before Slice Harvester began and stuck around for 2 years of him being drunk almost all the time and treating her like crap. The book was also very vulgar for seemingly no other reason that to be vulgar. I did NOT like this one and would not recommend it. The only decent chapter was chapter 10 about Pizza Suprema. Instead of wasting your time with this terrible book do your own local "slice harvest" to find the best pizza in your area.


All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr

All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr (Books & Banter and Evening Edition book clubs)

I re-read this book because both of my book clubs selected for the month. I was excited to re-read it because I loved it so much the first time. I definitely loved it just as much reading it again and there were more things I noticed this time because I already knew what happened so I wasn't just blowing through it so fast. I don't think I really understood the title until this time. Werner is so affected by the records that Marie-Laure's great-uncle plays and a quote from the records says "What do we call visible light? We call it color. But the electromagnetic spectrum runs to zero in one direction and infinity in the other, so really, children, mathematically, all of light is invisible." (p. 53) All the light we cannot see is both everything Marie-Laure can't see because she's blind and all the electromagnetic waves in the radio frequencies that Werner detects and understands. I'm just blown away again at this incredibly well-written book. (from reading May 3-6, 2016)


Following the Wild Bees by Thomas D Seeley

Following the Wild Bees by Thomas Seeley

I'm trying to read more books about bees and beekeeping since we're planning to get bees next spring. This book covers an aspect of bees I wasn't familiar with before - hunting for wild bee colonies. The author is a scientist who has done multiple scientific studies about bees and their habitats, etc. In doing so he discovered bee hunting. While it seems very interesting - it also seems pretty time-consuming and complicated with lots of math and calculating to find where the wild bee hive is located. I think it could be interesting, but I don't really know who has time to spend DAYS out in the woods looking for wild bee hives! I'm very interested in bees, but I don't think this is something I'll personally try. I did like that at the very end he talks about how to set up a bait hive to capture swarms - that is something I could see myself trying out down the road.


Early One Morning by Virginia Baily

Early One Morning by Virginia Baily

Based on the synopsis of this book that I read it sounded great - an Italian woman impulsively takes a Jewish child who is being carted away with his family and saves his life. But, the actual book was very disappointing. The storyline goes back in forth in time, but there is no indication of the time frame in the chapter heading so it was often confusing what time period was being described. Also, while Chiara does an incredible act the whole time she is caring for Daniele there is nothing but problems and everything seems to go wrong. 30 years after rescuing Daniele, Chiara gets a call from a teenage girl claiming to be Daniele's daughter. Chiara decides to confront her painful past with Daniele for the sake of his daughter. The whole book is really depressing and sad with NO HOPE in sight, then somehow in the end the author ties up everything for this perfect happy ending - it just didn't work with the rest of the book.

Maybe because I just finished re-reading All the Light We Cannot See which takes place during the same time period (and is MUCH, MUCH better), but I was so disappointed with this one. I would NOT recommend this one at all.


This Is Not a Love Story by Judy Brown

This is Not a Love Story by Judy Brown

When Judy Brown was growing up she was constantly embarrassed by her younger brother Nachum. Their family was ultraorthodox Chassidic Jews and in the late 1980's autism wasn't really on many people's radars, but especially in this insular community. Nachum couldn't speak and would freak out over loud noises or if touched. Judy constantly prayed that God would fix her brother or at least take him away. Their mother devotes her life to getting Nachum help finally sending him to live in Israel with family and that is where after years he is finally diagnosed as autistic and gets the therapy and help he needs. Within a few years of his diagnosis he can read and write and speak. After being away from her brother for 6 years when Judy first goes to visit him she "...realized that He [God] had never said no. He had only said, 'Wait.'"(p. 295) Judy starts to develop a real relationship with Nachum and begins to see their childhood in a different light now that she understands more about autism. The book kind of dragged on in the middle when she was SO caught up in being embarrassed by her brother, but the end made the whole book. The relationship they have and her love for him shines through. Growing up with a severely autistic sibling would be hard for anyone, but I think it was even harder because of their ultraorthodox community where the common practice was to send away any "imperfect" children. The fact that their parents didn't do that says a lot about them. 

In the info about her in the back of the book it says that she left Chassidism after being revealed as the author of a controversial book. I'm curious to know about that experience and maybe she'll write another book about that journey.


Food Whore by Jessica Tom

Food Whore by Jessica Tom

Tia Monroe just started graduate school in the Food Studies program at NYU. She feels certain that if she can get an internship with her idol Helen Lansky that her food writing dreams will come true. But, at the Food Studies reception her chance with Helen is interrupted and she doesn't get the internship. Instead she's approached by Michael Saltz, the legendary New York Times restaurant critic. Apparently he's lost his sense of taste and wants her to be his ghost palate. Tia jumps at the chance thinking this can only lead to better things. But, seeing her words under Saltz's name makes her feel cheap and lying to everyone in her life starts to take a toll too. Eventually, she has to decide whether to forge her own path or trust that Saltz really has her best interests in mind.

This was a fun, quick, Chick-lit read. While parts of the story were predictable, overall it was good. I would read another book by Jessica Tom.


A Deadly Wandering by Matt Richtel

A Deadly Wandering by Matt Richtel

In September 2006 on a remote highway in Utah Reggie Shaw is driving to work. While driving he is also texting his girlfriend. He crosses the center line and hits a car causing them to careen into the truck behind him - instantly killing James Furfaro and Keith O'Dell two rocket scientists on their way to work. While this might not have been the first texting and driving car accident, this crash helped create new anti-texting and driving laws. A Deadly Wandering explores this accident - the people involved and how it shaped new laws, but also the neuro-science behind attention and technology. While texting has only grown exponentially since this case, the science behind how technology affects our attention spans is eye-opening. It is really frightening to see how many people texting I see daily on my drive to work and after reading this book it makes you kind of paranoid. By far the best part of this book is seeing how Reggie Shaw, the driver responsible for 2 deaths, grows through this tragedy. He uses his horrific act to try to help others and show the real consequences of texting and driving - his story is powerful. This is a must-read for today's times.

Some quotes I really liked:

"The marriage of computers and communications brought so much utility. It also set the stage for a formidable, arguably unprecedented, challenge to the human brain, one that was often unseen and widely underestimated. Put another way, technology was evolving by the day, but the human brain was more or less staying put." (p. 68)

"To Dr. Strayer, the idea of using a mobile phone in a car was troubling, at least based on now decades of science establishing the limitations faced by pilots when they taxed their brains with too many visual inputs, sounds, and physical demands. He went to a supervisor at GTE [telecommunications company that would be acquired by Verizon] and said, 'Everything we know from aviation psychology indicates this is likely to be troublesome,' referring to the ideas of a car phone. 'Before we start marketing this, we should think about it.' Shortly thereafter, he heard from his supervisor that the company leadership wasn't particularly interested in pursuing the safety question. 'Why would we want to know this?' Dr. Strayer was told. 'That will not help us sell anything.'" (p. 124)

"Dr. Strayer wanted the emerging field of research to also answer another question: Why, given it was becoming clear that the brain faced limitations, were people continuing to multitask, particularly in challenging, even dangerous, situations? When he first started his work on distracted driving, he just assumed people would stop the behavior when they realized how dangerous it could be. But when phone use by drivers continued, even grew, he was forced to reach another conclusion, one that vexed him. People didn't stop using the technology, because they couldn't. 'I assumed people would come to their senses,' he says. 'It was naive on my part. Still to this day, I'm surprised by how addictive and how alluring the technology is.'"(p. 127-8)

"Linton [the prosecutor of Reggie's case]: 'I have never seen anybody try to redeem themselves as much as Reggie Shaw. Period. End of story.'
Judge Willmore: 'He's done more to affect change than anyone I've ever seen.'" (p. 330)

"He [David Teater, a former auto industry executive] says that all the glorification by automakers of technology use by drivers 'normalizes' the behavior. 'The more the automakers make these standard in a vehicle, the more this is what you do.' He likens the marketing of devices in the car to the cigarette industry. 'It's almost like back in the day of the tobacco industry. The automakers are saying: 'We need more research, we need more research,' and they keep building all the technology into vehicles, which is normalizing the behavior and making it harder and harder down the road to say: 'We're killing all these people, we need to stop.'" (p. 373)

"On July 21, [2009] we published a mini-investigative piece that showed that the Department of Transportation, a federal agency, had in 2003 known about and withheld compelling research showing the deadly risks of multitasking behind the wheel. The story explained that the federal agency didn't publish its data - including estimates that cell phone use by drivers caused around 955 fatalities and 240,000 accidents over all in 2002 - because of fears of angering Congress. (Congress had previously admonished the Department of Transportation to avoid certain political issues.) In the story, I quoted Clarence Ditlow, director of the Center for Auto Safety, as saying: 'We're looking at a problem that could be as bad as drunk driving, and the government has covered it up.'" (p. 381-2)

April 2016 Cookbooks

Savor by Ilona Oppenheim

Savor: Rustic Recipes Inspired by Forest, Field, and Farm by Ilona Oppenheim

In the introduction the author talks about how reading Michael Pollan's book The Omnivore's Dilemma changed her life. After I read that I knew I was going to like this book because reading that book changed my life too. Oppenheim tries to source the best local ingredients she can for her family and her recipes are organized by area/type - for instance the chapter "Into the Wild" is recipes based on foraged wild ingredients, and "Around the Pasture" is all about pasture raised meat and dairy. Besides all the yummy sounding recipes, there are BEAUTIFUL photos of Colorado - and the food of course! I really liked this cook book and definitely want to try out a few of her recipes. I would definitely recommend this one!


Eating in the Middle by Andie Mitchell

Eating in the Middle by Andie Mitchell

I heard about this cookbook before I read Andie's memoir It was Me All Along, but after reading that I was even more excited about her cookbook. After being overweight for the first 20 years of her life Andie had a wake-up call and after some drastic changes lost 136 pounds in 18 months. But, losing all that weight made her almost afraid to eat and she went to the other extreme of being hyper-vigilant about everything she ate. She knew she had to find a middle ground in order to heal her relationship with food and that is where Eating in the Middle comes in. In this cookbook she shares some of her favorite recipes. Many are family favorites that she "lightens up" while some are meant to be shared or for special occasions. I really like her attitude that no food should ever be off limits, but some things aren't meant to be eaten every day. Overall, a good cookbook with some recipes I definitely want to try.

April 2016 Reviews

The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls

The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls (Books & Banter book club)

This was my 3rd time reading this book and it was just as good as it was the first time!

Jeannette Walls had an almost unbelievable childhood. Her mother is an artist who can't be bothered to cook or clean or do much of anything for her children, while her father is an alcoholic who can't hold down a job so they are always doing the "skedaddle" to get away from the FBI, or rather bill collectors. They live in small towns throughout California and Arizona, but eventually make their way back to Welch, West Virginia where her father is from. It's there that you see why her father is an alcoholic - his family is horrific and unfortunately they live in their grandparent's basement for awhile. Her father drinks away any money that comes in and the kids are all chronically hungry and filthy. Once Jeannette is in high school she realizes her father is never going to change and her best hope is to get away from Welch and her parents as fast as she can. She and all her siblings end up in New York City, where eventually her parents join them by being homeless and eventually squatting illegally in an abandoned building. No matter how crazy your family is, it can't even begin to compare to the Walls family. 

This is the 3rd time I've read this book and every time I read it I'm amazed that all 4 children turned out to be normal, productive adults. This is an AMAZING memoir that really opened the door for other survivors of dysfunctional families to share their own dysfunctional family stories.

"We laughed about all the kids who believed in the Santa myth and got nothing for Christmas but a bunch of cheap plastic toys. 'Years from now, when all the junk they got is broken and long forgotten,' Dad said, 'you'll still have your stars.'" (p. 41)

"Although we were the poorest family on Little Hobart Street, Mom and Dad never applied for welfare or food stamps, and they always refused charity. When teachers gave us bags of clothes from church drives, Mom made us take them back. 'We can take care of our own,' Mom and Dad liked to say. 'We don't accept handouts from anyone.'" (p. 159)

[After moving to New York City and being homeless] "'You can't live like this,' I said. 'Why not? Mom said. 'Being homeless is an adventure.'" (p. 255)

"'We don't need anything,' Mom said. 'We're fine.' She put down her teacup. 'It's you I'm worried about.' 'You'reworried about me?' 'Yes. Very worried.' 'Mom,' I said. 'I'm doing very well. I'm very, very comfortable.' 'That's what I'm worried about,' Mom said. 'Look at the way you live. You've sold out. Next thing I know, you'll become a Republican.' She shook her head. 'Where are the values I raised you with?'" (p. 269)

"'You mean you own land worth a million dollars?' I was thunderstruck. All those years in Welch with no food, no coal, no plumbing, and Mom had been sitting on land worth a million dollars? Had all those years, as well as Mom and Dad's time on the street - not to mention their current life in an abandoned tenement - been a caprice inflicted on us by Mom? Could she have solved our financial problems by selling this land she never even saw? But she avoided my questions, and it became clear that to Mom, holding on to land was not so much an investment strategy as it was an article of faith, a revealed truth as deeply felt and incontestable to her as Catholicism. And for the life of me, I could not get her to tell me how much the land was worth...'Mom, I can't ask Eric for a million dollars.' 'Jeannette, I haven't asked you for a lot of favors, but I'm asking you for one now. I wouldn't if it wasn't important. But this is important.'...'Jeannette,' Mom said when she had accepted the fact that she would not get her way,'I'm deeply disappointed in you.'" (p. 273)


The Hundred-Foot Journey by Richard C. Morais

The Hundred Foot Journey by Richard Morais (Evening Edition book club)

Hassan Haji's favorite memory was helping his grandmother cook in their restaurant kitchen. His grandparents started small and expanded over time to create an Indian food empire, but after their deaths he and his family moved away to London and eventually they ended up in the French Alps. There Haji's father opened an Indian restaurant that drew the immediate ire of the nearby restaurateur Gertrude Mallory. It was Mallory who finally noticed Hassan's incredible cooking talent and took him under her wing. Hassan grew to be an amazing chef and his restaurant would eventually earn 3 Michelin stars.

This is one of my book club's books and honestly I wouldn't have read it if not for book club. It wasn't terrible, but it definitely wasn't spectacular either. The beginning of the book just doesn't seem to fit with the rest of the book, but it does get better once Hassan is cooking and that's the focus. I just didn't connect with Hassan or the book and if it wasn't for book club I wouldn't have finished it. I wouldn't recommend this one.


Year of the Cow by Jared Stone

Year of the Cow by Jared Stone

Jared Stone realizes that he hardly knows anything about where his food comes from - so he decides to buy a whole cow. Stone always liked to cook, but having an entire steer in his freezer really motivates him to try new things with new cuts of meat and even delve into bone marrow and organ meats. While not everything he cooks turns out fantastic, a lot of it does. He soon realizes that the quality of the meat is much more important than the skills of the cook (although he also quickly learns that grass-fed beef requires MUCH less cooking time than grain-fed). By cooking more he is eating more whole foods, feels better, is motivated to exercise more, and eventually buying a whole cow transforms Stone's whole family for the better. Stone's experience shows that often one seemingly small change like buying local, pastured meat can lead to more and more changes and one day you look back and don't even recognize the "old" you. This is one of those great food memoirs that really motivates you to do more and cook more yourself - and he also ends each chapter with a recipe. I would HIGHLY recommend this one!

Some quotes I liked:

"Frequently, Summer and I find ourselves reverting to previous iterations of a technology or technique that, for one reason or another, fell out of favor. I start jokingly referring to this state as One Step Back. Then, not so jokingly. 
One Step Back, cows ate grass.
One Step Back, more people knew how to cook.
One Step Back, obesity was rarer.
...Every task I perform, every methodology I employ - again and again: How was it done previously? And was it done better One Step Back?" (p. 198)

"In my opinion, if we take an animal's life for a meal, we owe it to that animal to make the most of the sacrifice. In this case, we're eating a heart. It's one more meal from the carcass, one more dinner where we don't have to look elsewhere - to another cut or another critter - for sustenance. One more moment of recognition that this was once an animal, and we must not - should not, cannot - take it for granted. It wasn't a great meal. But it was a good meal. And I'm glad we did it." (p. 228-9)

"Cooking with this steer has taught me, if nothing else, not to accept the default option. In cooking, in eating, in running, in working, in playing - other options exist and have their own benefits and shortcomings. And in some cases, I've found them preferable to their more recently developed defaults." (p. 301)


All the Winters After by Seré Prince Halverson

All the Winters After by Sere Prince Halverson

Kachemak Winkel is named for the Alaskan Bay near his family's homestead. But, Kache never feels connected to the land like his father and older brother do and after his parents and brother are killed in a plane crash he leaves Alaska. Twenty years pass before Kache can bear to go back. His aunt is supposed to be taking care of their family cabin, but when he goes back his Aunt Snag tells him that she couldn't bear to go back either. He assumes it will be a pile of rotten logs, but when he gets there he finds a Russian woman has been living there for the past 10 years hiding from an abusive past. Nadia never intended to stay for 10 years, but after awhile she felt like she knew the Winkel family. Both Nadia and Kache have been running from their painful pasts and now it's time for them to come to terms with the losses they've suffered and start living again. 

This is a beautifully written novel that explores family, forgiveness, and grief. Halverson's descriptions of Alaska make you want to pick up and move there. The way she lays out the story is just so well done and I think this one is even better than The Underside of Joy which I loved. I can't wait to see what she does next - I'd love to have a sequel to this one to find out what happens next with Kache and Nadia.


Every Last Tie by David Kaczynski

Every Last Tie: the Story of the Unabomber and His Family by David Kaczynski

I was excited to read this book because I'd seen David Kaczynski speak a few times on TV about his brother and the difficulty he had turning him in to the FBI. But, the book was a little disappointing. I did really like that he includes lots of family pictures. Similarly to Sue Klebold's book, A Mother's Reckonin, it helps humanize Ted Kaczynski and you can see how his family knew there were problems, but never imagined he would turn into the Unibomber. The book is VERY short - only 4 chapters and each chapter focuses on a specific relationship - how David came around to suspecting his brother might be the Unibomber, a chapter on his mother, one on his father, and then one on his relationship with his wife Linda, who first suspected Ted as the Unibomber. The tone of the book is very light and almost disconnected. I guess I wished for a more thorough and linear book about David and Ted's lives. It's not a bad book, just not what I was expecting. The Afterward is written by James L. Knoll who is a forensic psychologist. That section is so full of psychologist terminology and philosophy that it was a little hard to follow. It was more of a philosophical look at the situation than a more detailed memoir, which was what I was hoping for. It was OK, but not great.


The Precious One by Marisa de los Santos

The Precious One by Marisa de los Santos

Taisy and her twin brother Marcus grew up with their domineering and cold father, but their life really changed when their parents split up and their father started a new family with a much younger woman. Their father completely cut them off and never contacted either of them in over 17 years - until he reaches out to Taisy while recovering from a heart attack. Marcus refuses to see him, but Taisy is hopeful that this near-death experience might have changed their father. What Taisy doesn't expect is to really like her step-mother Caro and half-sister Willow. She also didn't expect to reconnect with her first love Ben. All of these relationships are put to the test over one fateful Thanksgiving dinner when Taisy tries one last time to connect with her father.

I always know a book isn't good when it takes me forever to read it. Usually I blow through books I love in a few days or less, but I just couldn't get into this one. The characters aren't bad, but parts of the storyline work out just a little too well and I don't understand why Taisy keeps trying to have a relationship with her father who clearly doesn't love or care about her. I really liked the authors previous books, but I didn't really like this one much. I did want to see what happened, but I thought the ending tied everything up a little too perfectly and unrealistically.


The Feelgood Plan by Dalton Wong

The Feelgood Plan by Dalton Wong

The feelgood plan is all about making smaller, healthier choices that add up to feeling better all the time. The book is divided into 3 main sections - Eat, Move, Relax. Each of these sections talks about healthier choices you can make relating to each of those areas and almost all of them are something you can do in 15 minutes or less. I really liked that in the Move section they give you a basic body weight workout, then how you can up that workout, and how to know when you're ready to move on to the next level workout. Nothing seems wild or super hard, so I think this book could help someone just starting to get healthy as much as someone who got off track or wants to step things up in a certain area. At the end there is a 12 week plan you can do that charts out exercise and eating plans for those 12 weeks. Overall, it looks like a solid and very do-able plan to get healthier and feel better without being overwhelming.


All Who Go Do Not Return by Shulem Deen

All Who Go Do Not Return by Shulem Deen

Shulem Deen grew up in an ultra-Orthodox Jewish home where every aspect of you life is tightly controlled by lists and lists of rules and regulations. A few different encounters make him curious about the outside world that he was always taught was so dangerous. He starts small by listening to the radio, which leads to going to the public library, then the internet, then forbidden books, and TV. Soon he knows he is a heretic and feels like everyone around him can see his unbelief. Based on nothing but rumors, he is expelled from his community and he and his family move away from the only life they've known. But, only Shulem is willing to explore the outside world - his wife does NOT share his views and soon they divorce and she moves back with their 5 children. From here the books gets REALLY depressing because the Orthodox community works hard to keep him separated from his children and by the end of the book he really has no relationship with them at all. Fortunately he does find a community of ex-Orthodox Jews that have left similar communities who all understand each other in a way no one else can. Also, Deen's immediate family - his mother and siblings all still accept him and maintain a relationship with him even after he leaves the faith. While in some ways this book was REALLY interesting since the Orthodox Jewish world is SO completely different and unique, but it was also sad to watch Deen lose all faith in God and then lose his family as well. I'm curious about whether he is ever able to reconnect with his children once they are older.

Some quotes I liked:

"In later years, I would have words for that which I could not articulate to the rebbe or to Avremel, words from beyond our cloistered world of tischen and Talmud study and groom instruction: Attraction, Chemistry, Compatibility, I would later learn other words - passion, romance, arousal, desire - that I wanted as well, but to want those was an unquestionable sin; those feelings and thoughts and behaviors that passed between sexes outside of our world were anathema to us and our sacred ways." (p. 40)

"I hated that we relied on the government for so much. I hated that we skirted, just barely, the edges of legality. That we made sure never to report earning one cent more than the official poverty level so that we could keep our food stamps and our Section 8 and our WIC checks. I hated that the economics of our village were such that all matters of finance were bound up in deception. 'On the books or off the books?' was the big question for every new job. And still, the money was never enough." (p. 105)

"'Read the books,' Chezky said. 'Maybe they'll change your mind.' I wanted to. In fact, I was burning with curiosity, but to read these books felt treacherous, like stepping onto a tightrope across rocky river rapids with no tightrope-walking skills. This was exactly what the rabbis had warned about. Chakirah, they called it. Rational inquiry. And it led, they warned, to bad things...Chezky shrugged. 'Just remember this: when blind faith is all you have, you end up slashing people's car tires for not inviting the rebbe to a bris.'" (p. 173)